Comments on Adventures in Babywearing: What's In A Name? Everything!

With Lucy, we got lots of raised eyebrows and, "Oh...

2008-05-05T13:43:00.000-05:00

With Lucy, we got lots of raised eyebrows and, "Oh, that's my dog's name!"

With Asher, no one knew until we presented him. We feigned that we didn't know what we were going to name him, but really alot of it was that we didn't want anyone's opinion on the matter!

We did the same w/ our first. When ppl would ask ...

2008-05-02T08:49:00.000-05:00

We did the same w/ our first. When ppl would ask I'd give them like our top 10 list. Once we decided, I casually omitted the name we had chosen from that list. haha
I figured out quick that ppl were generous in their suggestions and comments on the names we had picked and like you, I really didn't much care to hear their negative thoughts.
Besides, since we were telling everyone the gender ahead of time I thought it was a nice to keep at least the name a surprise.

i agree--whatever works for you. it is amazing ho...

2008-05-01T01:01:00.000-05:00

i agree--whatever works for you. it is amazing how freely people give their opinions about pregnancy and child rearing.

I am NEVER speaking to you again! ;)

2008-05-01T00:34:00.000-05:00

I am NEVER speaking to you again! ;)

I wanted to do the same but everyone kept bugging ...

2008-04-30T23:53:00.000-05:00

I wanted to do the same but everyone kept bugging me and I finally gave in. And then you tell people and they all have to give you their opinions, so frustrating! So good choice.

I always told our names beforehand, but I totally ...

2008-04-30T23:15:00.000-05:00

I always told our names beforehand, but I totally get where you are coming from. If we ever have a third, I don't think I'm sharing.

Interestingly enough, I have found that people still "steal" names even after the baby is born. I never thought I cared about this until Kendall. I knew poor Emma (a family name) was sharing her name with half the world, so I wanted our second child to have a unique name that could be just hers, but wasn't too out there.

However, not one, but TWO people I know have since taken Kendall after hearing about the birth of our little one. I am still trying to take it as a compliment... :)

I loved this post Steph! We kept our names secret ...

2008-04-30T22:55:00.000-05:00

I loved this post Steph! We kept our names secret too and some people got down right obnoxious about it. We like very unusual names and we just wanted to keep it private and honestly we didn't want any opinions. Your the baby's mama, you do what's best for your family. :-)

Well, let me tell you...people get offended when y...

2008-04-30T22:48:00.000-05:00

Well, let me tell you...people get offended when you don't find out the sex too! There were so many people frustrated with me because we didn't find out ahead of time with Popeye. People are silly.

We do the same thing! Actually we picked out 3 nam...

2008-04-30T22:05:00.000-05:00

We do the same thing! Actually we picked out 3 names for Oliver and decided on the right one when he was born. This time around we can't agree on anything! We had 2 friends and 2 family members pregnant at the same time and we didn't want them to "steal" our name, either.

Yeah, me too. To all of that. Our girl has a nam...

2008-04-30T19:42:00.000-05:00

Yeah, me too. To all of that. Our girl has a name, and it's 99% set in stone (unless we meet her and realize it's totally wrong) but I'm not spilling. I just don't want feedback. I love the name, and I know it's right. I can't wait to introduce her to everyone.

YES! We did the same thing with our Bubbalu too (B...

2008-04-30T18:50:00.000-05:00

YES! We did the same thing with our Bubbalu too (BTW that's NOT his real name ;)

We told everyone we were expecting a boy, but NO we weren't sharing names.

It doesn't allow people to say, "I don't care for that name" or some such nonsense.

You GO girl :)

Totally agree with you! My husband just told every...

2008-04-30T18:02:00.000-05:00

Totally agree with you! My husband just told everybody we were naming our child Bob. (No offense to any Bob's out there!) Our first was a girl, everybody of course laughed. Then we were expecting a boy, and again, his name was going to be Bob. Now we are expecting Baby #3. So if anybody asks, the baby will be named Bob. ;) It sure got people off our backs about knowing the name! I mean, there's gotta be SOME element of surprise.
~jenna

We waited to tell others too, but we mainly said w...

2008-04-30T17:51:00.000-05:00

We waited to tell others too, but we mainly said we couldn't nail down a name... which was partly true. We had one and a backup in case the first didn't "match" the baby... you know what I mean. Anyway, we can't wait to find out the sex and the name in a few months!

I don't blame you one bit, Steph. I think when som...

2008-04-30T17:42:00.000-05:00

I don't blame you one bit, Steph. I think when someone asks you, you should just say, "It's a surprise." I don't know why anyone would take that the wrong way.

Imagine how irritating it would be if you told the name you'd chosen and everyone liked it so much, they used it too. You're right. There are a LOT of preggy people who may be struggling with a name and think the one you've chosen is perfect. :-)

I completely agree with you on this one. If I cou...

2008-04-30T15:28:00.000-05:00

I completely agree with you on this one. If I could keep my big mouth shut I wouldn't tell anyone either. As it is, I usually give people a list of names we are considering and then don't tell them the final until baby arrives. I like to keep some suspense for the birth other than just weight and height.

I totally understand were you are coming from with...

2008-04-30T14:47:00.000-05:00

I totally understand were you are coming from with this! I wish we had done this, b/c we did get some negative comments when we told people. And it really can just burst your bubble!
If we were ever to have another(which is very unlikely) I would totally go the "not telling the name" route!
I'm looking forward to hearing who is in there on May 9th!

We told everyone the name we chose, but we are alw...

2008-04-30T14:33:00.000-05:00

We told everyone the name we chose, but we are always very deliberate in choosing names. I truly believe that there is a right name for my children, and sometimes that name takes some time to find. Maybe next time we'll try not telling until baby is here, sounds like fun even if you do have to endure a few not so nice looks and comments.

Can't wait for the big announcement on May 9th!

I think it's your choice whether you tell others o...

2008-04-30T14:20:00.000-05:00

I think it's your choice whether you tell others or not!

We do the same thing. We have never, ever announce...

2008-04-30T13:28:00.000-05:00

We do the same thing. We have never, ever announced a name until our babies arrived.

In fact, we don't even choose the name until we see the baby.

I know whatever you name your new sweetpea, it will be perfect!

Never share the names. Makes it much more exciting...

2008-04-30T13:25:00.000-05:00

Never share the names. Makes it much more exciting for everyone when you have the baby.

My friend is having a girl in June and her and her...

2008-04-30T13:15:00.000-05:00

My friend is having a girl in June and her and her husband can't agree on anything, so they are actually taking suggestions! Ha!
I understand why you don't "spill the beans" on baby names. For me it really wasn't a big deal. If someone didn't like a name I was thinking about, TUFF!
Oh and same friend, she had her girl name picked out, didn't tell anyone (but me) and her brother in law and his wife named their baby the same thing.

I love the way you put everything into perspective...

2008-04-30T13:12:00.000-05:00

I love the way you put everything into perspective! :-)

I so understand. With our first, we ended up chan...

2008-04-30T13:07:00.000-05:00

I so understand. With our first, we ended up changing it because of a comment that one of our friends said. And now, we're considering the same name if this one is a boy! And, we aren't telling either!

I think it's lovely, you've obviously put a lot of...

2008-04-30T13:06:00.000-05:00

I think it's lovely, you've obviously put a lot of thought into it.

I remember people getting huffy that we didn't know the gender of our third baby and weren't finding out, even though we told them our chosen names. My goodness- some people!

I'll have to watch for your announcement soon on baby's gender. :)

We didn't tell anyone Jayce's name until after he ...

2008-04-30T13:03:00.000-05:00

We didn't tell anyone Jayce's name until after he was born. I was a little less honest though, when someone would ask. We would always say that we hadn't decided yet when really we knew full well what his name was going to be. I just figured that since everyone already knew that I was having a boy it might be fun to leave a little something to reveal at birth!

Can't wait to *meet* your little one when he or she comes along!