December 15, 2011

It has a ring to it


If you could peek in on us right now, dinner is cooking in the oven and okay I'll admit that by dinner I mean frozen fries, Gray and Ivy are eating salads at the counter, Carter is doing homework at the table, and Noah is reading (or pretending to read- I caught him with the book upside down) on the big chair by me. It's quiet. The music that is usually playing is silent. I have been turning it off in trade for the sound of quiet. Silence has a sound, you know. And for a while, when Ivy fell asleep in the car earlier today, I just sat in the driveway with it running warm and looked out the window and really looked. Not for anything in particular, but just watched.

I had just lunched with a friend and -on a topic totally unrelated actually- about some place she was in and how she had to "lean in to hear", and how that was okay, not a nuisance but a charming comfort. I told her to stop right there and let me think on that for a minute... That's it. It's okay to not have everything served up to our ease. Let me strain. Make me lean in. That means I want to hear. That means it's worth something. Right now I am sifting to find those pebbles that are actually worth any energy I have to offer right now.

We joked, half-heartedly about being one step away from those Wall-E people who travel on motorized Rascals and never look away from their screens. It scares me. I don't need a loud speaker or fancy lights to get you. I don't want the decorations I want your dirt and roots.

I'm sad at my own reflexes- I don't reach out to you or ask how you are doing because I already saw on Facebook. But I am missing out. Yes I do need to reach out. It is not good enough to skim the surface. It is junk food. We can email but it's not your voice like on the phone or your pen scrawl in a card or your knee touching mine on a couch in a coffee shop.

I know this is same old same old. I know this has hidden messages about my spiritual life. I don't make resolutions for the new year anymore, but I definitely have some hopes and baby steps in mind for what I want to happen next.

I bought candy canes today for the tree because they're fun and I found all sorts of flavors and colors at the store (even Star Wars ones) and I think there were like eight boxes and Noah said, at the sight of them all, that it was the best day ever of his life.


  1. oh girlie, oh how I get this.

    Also, isn't it amazing what several boxes of candy canes can do for a day?

  2. That picture is so perfect it looks staged, except I know that you are the last person on earth to stage pictures like that.

    These words are all YES. I have to be more and more intentional about less screens. We toyed with the idea of getting the girls iPods for Christmas, but no. Too much screen time already.

    Intentional about silence - that's hard for extraverts, you know. But just because it's hard doesn't mean it's not important. Pivotal and precious even.

    I love the way you say it all.

  3. Ha- totally. That is Ivy being Ivy actually. Goofing off but I see it as "editorial!" LOL


  4. Silence. And the sound that comes with it. Oh, how I miss that sound. I feel like everything lately has just been loud and then we're loud to be heard over the loud. I crave the quiet. and the peace.

  5. I'm laughing at Noah reading the book upside down..sounds like what I use to do.

  6. Love this post. I'd love to meet you at a coffee shop someday.

  7. You know what's a WEIRD flavor? Warheads sour candy canes. They're... unique.

  8. First off, thanks for popping by my blog today. :-)

    Second...Love this post. You are a lovely writer.

  9. Oh the noise of silence, I adore it and this post really hit home for me, without sounding like this is a poor me therapy session... holidays are tough for me because our daughter passed away several years ago and SO many people are surface-y with me... a quick "How are you? Good? Great to hear." and they are on their way. Very few people really do exactly what you talk about here, lean in, look at my face and know that all is not always "okay." Sorry for the book but this post rang so true for me. So glad I found your blog not long ago. Where have you been all my blog-reading life?

  10. I love EVERYTHING about this post. I love the picture of Ivy. I love her leg warmers. I love the sound of quiet. "Silence has a sound, you know." But not everybody does know this. Because they don't lean in to listen, and silence is one of those things. You have to lean in to listen to hear what silence has to teach you.


  11. I've been thinking about some of these same thing alot lately, being more activly engaged in life. I hoping too to make some baby steps in the new year

    I went to Target to get candy canes and I saw all those different ones (a whole aisle) when all I was wanting were the regular red and white ones. the super nice target associate went and dug them out of a secret hiding place, that made my day

  12. It is so nice when kids are young; they are so easy to please. What happens when they grow up and become hard to please. I long for the says when a bunch of multiflavored candy canes would make a child's day.

  13. Can Noah read it out loud to you while the book is upside down?

  14. "I'm sad at my own reflexes- I don't reach out to you or ask how you are doing because I already saw on Facebook."

    i wish this didn't resonate with me so much. and sometimes i wish the sound of silence wasn't so loud.

  15. I just love the way you write. And that picture of Ivy is perfect! I find that it's so easy for me to get sucked into technology and have to make an concentrated effort to put down the devices to go make forts and play pretend...which is always way more fun. I don't want my children to remember a mother and father who are zoned out and staring at a phone screen etc.

  16. Oh I get this. I have such a hard time being quiet...doing quiet, yet I crave quiet...

    Same with relationships, I should do more. But I am so tired and I well honestly? I love my little family and if I have one single free moment, I kind of want to spend it with them...

    Anyways, I just want you to know that I get this, you are not alone, and I love you for sharing.

  17. Oh my god yes. The clamor. The UPDATES. But am I ever really listening or just making sure I check everything? This is beautiful and, well, just beautiful.


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