November 30, 2011

So the school counselor called.

About Gray. Of course.

You know him and his pants. Well, he's kind of like that with coats and jackets, too. It can be freezing out and he'll refuse a coat, but! will wear a hat. I didn't fight him when he only wore his green jacket to school on Monday. At least it was on and not shoved in his backpack with his gloves. But apparently it was colder than I realized.

So, yesterday the school counselor called to see if we would like one of the winter coats that had been donated to the school. I was confused, because I had made sure he wore a heavier coat, with an added sweatshirt underneath.

But, apparently, he told someone he didn't have a coat. There I sat, wondering what he did with his coat. Did he hide it? But soon I realized that she was implying that maybe we were in need of a coat for him. She hadn't yet seen him bundled today and was tipped off from his paltry covering from the day before. Also, I don't really know if she believed me.

Maybe it's because I've been on the verge of tears all week, or I don't know what. But it all started to click. I'd recently emailed his teacher about how I can't help out with lunch during the week anymore because we are down to one car. And I wondered if they noticed that Gray only wears two pairs of pants all week (his brown and blue pair, of which we have multiples.) And then there was that day last week that I only realized after he got home from school that he'd worn the very same shirt two days in a row.

And then I felt really embarrassed.

I mean, I think it's awesome that his teacher is looking out for him. I'm not there to be sure he's warm enough at recess. I can only send him with the goods and hope he'll put it all on. I hope that no kid has to be cold and will be given a coat if he doesn't have one.

It just felt... crappy. And at the same time, made me laugh, because it's so Gray. But also? so embarrassing. 

Today I sent him with a hat with chinstrap to wear under his big bulky hood, a pair of gloves and a pair of fleece mittens. And socks that almost go to his knees. It's basically like this:



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44 comments:

  1. I know that was way hard on you but just know that you and gray will look back in 20 years and laugh till you cry.


    xoxo

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  2. Oh my goodness, Steph! That is so funny/embarrassing! Look at it this way- you'll have a WONDERFUL story to tell him & his girlfriend in the years ahead. :)

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  3. you rock! and so do your kids!

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  4. Oh I get it. Wolfie only has two pairs of pants; I mean, he's only six. How many pairs of pants does he need? And he's the type of kid that puts a coat on all the time. Summer, spring, fall, (winter of course) but he likes to put on his hood no matter what. We tell him all the time to take his hood off - aren't you getting too hot? Geez.

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  5. I'm sorry but I just had to laugh at the whole situation! And of course that picture makes me laugh even harder! HA HA HA!

    Sweet Gray...

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  6. Does it make you feel better that I did laundry a few weeks ago and found exactly 1 pair of underwear from Connor? When we finally pinned him down (metaphorically speaking), he confessed he just really doesn't like changing his underwear. Even after a shower. Same pair all week, for the win!

    But no one could see that at school, so no call from the teacher. Whew! Small mercies.

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  7. I agree with Crooked Eyebrow, you will totally laugh about this someday! Hopefully sooner than later!

    You're a great mom!

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  8. Oh, wow, this brings back the memories! When I was young and my brother was in 1st grade he was bussed into town to attend a school with a 95% free-lunch-rate.

    He was a picky 6-year-old and wanted to wear his same Pittsburgh Steelers jersey to school everyday, my mom let him. She washed it every night and he wore it every day and that was one less detail to worry about every morning.

    That is, until she got the call that said she'd be welcome to visit the clothes closet! She was a little embarrassed. But she got over it, and my brother kept wearing that Steelers jersey every day.

    And we're not even from Pittsburgh, or Steelers fans!

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  9. That Gray is just the darlingest thing on this earth... Don't let them change him - like they possibly could!!! He has such entertainment value - he is just the most glorious creative creature... gotta love him!!! Never mind your self esteem or any of that, just bash it under the rug and try to keep up!!!

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  10. Anne,

    OH HOW I WANT TO FRAME YOUR COMMENT!

    Thank you. :)

    Laughing so hard.

    Steph

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  11. Oh, my! I am basically raising the female version of Gray. Her way or the highway...

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  12. Gosh. I am not sure how I'd have handled that. But I'm pretty sure I'll have to handle it someday, as I have a little no-coat, no-hat, no-glover of my own.

    I'm 100% sure you will laugh about this. You're going to have a rich, deep volume of tales to tell about your boy when he's older, and then you can embarrass him a little bit and get him back for this! (I'm only kidding.) (Well, mostly.)

    And yep, you ARE a great mother. One of the best!

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  13. Don't feel bad! When Simon was in kindy he wore his shoes until his socks showed through and didn't tell me (and I didn't notice...). I mentioned it to his teacher and she told me this story: HER son, who went to a local middle school, wore HIS shoes out too, then he told his school counselors that his family didn't have enough money for shoes. Apparently this kind of mortification is universal!

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  14. This post totally made me laugh out loud. Love your honesty and the pic :) A few years ago my daughter was calling home from middle school at least 3 times a week for me to come and pick her up because some boy was mean, or she hated her outfit, or her best friend wasn't there. On an especially busy work day for me-she called once again and I firmly and somewhat loudly said-"If you need me I will always be there, but you can't do this every day!!! I have work to do! Now do I really need to come and get you or not????" I found out later that the school nurse heard me 'yelling' and put me on speaker to hear if I was mistreating my daughter! I was mortified. Taken out of context or without the first part-I would look like a really bad mom! That nurse-although she was the one out of line, probably still questions my mothering! Ugh!

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  15. Oh, boy. That would be embarrassing but with a boy of my own who likes to wear the same shirts over & over and if he was school age, would probably forget his coat...I totally understand. Yes, I'm sure you'll think this is funny someday! :)

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  16. Oh Steph I told G I was clicking on this link from Facebook because I was certain that it was about Gray. We were both nearly in tears from laughing and so needed that after this last week. Gray cracks us up! He is who he is and this was about as hilarious as the time he told the neighbors you were going to rob them!

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  17. Anonymous, OHMYGOSH that is horrifying!!

    Steph

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  18. Isn't it funny how things look on the outside and we never really know how it's being perceived?

    I get this. My Henry is all about his jeans and certain shirts and I've wondered sometimes what his teacher thinks.

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  19. I totally get ALL of this! I homeschool, so only the general public everywhere we go, people at church, the library and our homeschool elective classes have to wonder if Maggie has any more clothes. And Ellie...oh my. Sometimes I let them wear last year's shirt and just a light jacket or carry the jacket and Lord knows their clothes will most likely be mismatched because I pick my battles. They have plenty of weather appropriate clothes, but they have their favorites too.

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  20. I always wonder what people at school think when a kid is wearing mismatched clothes or something is not as clean as I would like or whatever. I mean, they know we have a ton of kids (ha) and so maybe they think we can't handle it? But the people at the school are awesome and so I would be happy if they noticed and were concerned for my kid. But still embarrassing.

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  21. My husband sent Chipmunk to school today in shorts and a tee shirt and it was 55. (Cold for Florida.) I had to drive over to the school and I was completely worried they'd end up thinking he was neglected or that we had no coat for him.

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  22. I remember at Charlie's school in NWI they were "required" to have boots/hat/gloves on snow days. All of which he refused to wear. It was a giant ball of little boy angst/school bossyness/and my embarassment b/c they kept thinking I refused to keep my child warm!

    Put it this way - I'm SO GLAD you found favorite pants and have multiples. I hope he keeps everything on once he leaves home! :)

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  23. That is so funny but so not. How do they do these things to us? My son colored his face with blue marker last week and it left faded blue marks. I had to give a long explanation to his teacher so she wouldn't think he was injured. Some day we will laugh at it all right?

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  24. As a school counselor, myself, I had to chuckle a bit at this.

    As a parent to boys who tend to like to wear the same thing, I totally get this. My 6yo is very texture sensitive, and very skinny. I busted out 3 pairs of the same pants (different colors) at Target, soft, but working drawstrings. All the important stuff.

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  25. My son played soccer when he was in 2nd grade & always REFUSED to wear anything under his uniform. One early spring morning it was 35 degrees, Dad was flying solo that day & couldn't get him to listen. So he quit fighting and let him go in his shorts. When I took him to practice that week & had to hear about how my husband dressed my son from ALL THE OTHER PARENTS, I nearly died from embarrassment. But, lesseon learned, my son always believed me when I said it is too cold for shorts!

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  26. I foresaw long and fruitless battles with ny stepdaughter last winter, and told my husband I was not going to force her to dress weather appropriately anymore. Her walk to the bus stop is shorter than we walk to the mall sometimes, so I just let it go. He was aghast, but saw my side of it, and this fall/winter she is wearing a puffer jacket of her own accord. She must have gotten cold last year but was too stubborn to admit we were right :)

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  27. My husband is a teacher in a really nice area (like multi-million dollar homes). A parent came in last week and asked him what he would like for Christmas. Like he always does, he told her that she didn't need to give anything but she insisted. She asked him if he was sure he didn't need a gift card for food or diapers since we have a new baby and it's hard to make ends meet these days. Thoughtful, sure but super uncomfortable thinking that those parents think we are poor. We have no problem buying food or diapers. Today she asked for the list of all parents email adrresses....

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  28. sigh. i love that boy.

    also, i have a feeling he and teagan are going to get married one day.

    xoxo

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  29. In my experience of teaching school, I have found that kids will go out without a coat at 0 degrees if the sun is shining. If you tell them it is cold, they will tell you they aren't cold. I used to tell Terry that he had to wear a coat when I was cold.

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  30. Laughing and crying all along with you, and we homeschool! There is no perfect on reality. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  31. :) I think we have all had similar moments :)

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  32. It reminds me of The Chicken when she insisted on wearing boots that were 3 times too big for her and she wore them with everything. We got them at a yard sale or something and she had to have them. Normally I wouldn't have cared and just ignored her pleas, but I didn't but when I was handing the lady the $2 for them I told her that she had better wear them. Even when I begged her not to wear them because they were starting to get beat up and the clonking and the fact that they were bright red.

    One of the aides for her class pulled me aside one day and asked me if I would mind giving her our address as she was sure she had some stuff her daughter had outgrown that The Chicken would fit into perfectly. (Oh did I fail to mention that she kept wearing 4 different very fancy dresses to school with these bright red clunky boots?) I could feel my face getting hot and I didn't know what to say. The aide put her hand on my shoulder and told me that it was okay, she understood, The Chicken told the class, "my mom said when she got me these shoes at the yard sale that I had to wear them. I would have picked other ones but these were the only size they had."

    I reassured the aide that we indeed had other shoes at home and other clothes but getting The Chicken to school was hard that I was happy with whatever she chose to put on as long as she decided to go to school.

    Those boots disappeared not long after that and we got her size appropriate pink boots that she loved for so long that when she finally stopped wearing them they were 2 sizes too small.

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  33. and I sort of wrote a novel.....my bad.

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  34. Oh, Steph. I want to cry for you. I love Gray's quirks...maybe because he reminds me so much of my son. One day, the two of you will get a huge laugh out of this! But, for now, I'm sending you a virtual hug because I know exactly how you feel!

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  35. Oh Steph!

    Oh my goodness. I did have a good laugh over this (and Anne's comment as well). My brother refused to wear coats - even up into his high school years. They lived in NW PA while I was in college. I wonder now if it ever raised some eyebrows at his school.

    I agree with se7en. Don't let anyone change Gray. I don't know him, but I am imagine he is just pretty much the coolest. I can imagine most days you want to pull your hair out or fall on the floor laughing!

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  36. On the other side of this, how great is it that the students are being looked after so well. If there was another kid in the class that truly needed a winter coat or gloves they would be helped.

    And.....my daughters been wearing the same pair of hello kitty socks for 3 days...yes it's gross....no I don't care. lol

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  37. Hey, Stephanie. . .we are down a car too (have been for a year now) and it STINKS! I feel your pain.
    That is too funny about Gray, especially how you sent him bundled up today.
    Hope your week gets better!
    Molly

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  38. You've heard my mom tell the story of sending me to camp right? In 2nd grade I went to summer camp for 5 days. When I got home she opened my suitcase to find everything neatly folded just as she packed it originally. I wore (and slept in) the same clothes the whole week. :)

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  39. Things I have sent my boys to school in: 1. The same shirt for a week (washed every night - it was a gift from a favorite, long-distance uncle, and he was missing him) 2. Pajama top with jeans (But, Mama, it has SPIDERMAN on it!) 3. Shorts and leg warmers swiped from his girl cousin (I'm still wondering why I didn't get a phone call about that one) 4. More capes than I care to count 5. Crocks with socks 6. Boots in the summer 7. 3 thin, layered jackets because he hated his new winter coat. 8. Costumes at various times of the year.

    I have embraced the phrase, "Pick your battles." And for me, clothes is almost never one I pick!

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  40. Ha. I can totally see this same thing happening to us. Our girls wear short sleeves almost year round - despite the weather. Whenever we go out, people say, "Oh, aren't they cold?" and "Poor Babies! They must be freezing!"

    stephanie@metropolitanmama.net

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  41. I forgot to make it clear in my previous comment that they CHOOSE to wear short sleeves. I usually have a jacket for them in the car or in my bag, but they're just as happy as can be without added layers. I think kids just stay warmer because they're always moving?

    stephanie@metropolitanmama.net

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  42. I like that you bought multiples of the same two pants - I had to do that for Big Boy when he was 3...but thankfully he's more compliant in the wardrobe dept now. I think it's because I just let him be, and stopped making a big deal about it (sounds like that's you too!). Except now (he's 6) and has an issue with changing underwear - his sister (4) switches hers about 3 times a day, just because. I never imagined these situations even existed until I became a mom!

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  43. okay ... so this is funny. I'm glad they care enough about kids to make sure they have warm coats. But don't they know Gray at all?? ;) it's also very sweet because this is SO Gray.

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