May 8, 2011

I didn't think I was a very good listener

I was interviewed on the radio the other day for Listen To Your Mother. (Side note: the show last night was beyond me being able to form words. Maybe I'll be able to properly express it soon-ish. Still don't know what to think or feel other than wow. I did it. We knocked it out of the park and I don't talk in sports-speak so you know that means something.)

Anyway, I was on the radio and they asked me about my own Mom, how did I listen to my mother? And I honestly look back and feel like I wasn't very good at listening to my mother. I feel like I gave her the hardest time and that makes me sad. That is maybe why it was uncomfortable for me to think about having my own daughter. I might have to go there. I might have to face that stuff.

And yet, without knowing it, I was listening. Things got past my stubborn will to be an individual and someone not molded by anyone, especially my parents. Little did I realize... they made the clay, they created the very thing I was made of. They instilled in me the spark that always lit the way leading toward my dreams, and away from what is practical and "normal". They designed me to be that radical person I was becoming despite my adolescent thinking that it was the opposite. They led me to believe it was all my own doing. Hahahaha. I see that so much now in my own children.

You think they are not listening. But they are. They just don't know it.

My Mom wanted me to believe I could do anything. She told me to follow my dreams and didn't just say it, she showed it. She still does. I do believe I can do anything. I can't not follow my dreams. It's the air I breathe.

Mom & Me

Mom, thank you. Happy Mother's Day. I only hope that I continue to become a better listener to you as I need it now more than ever, and I hope I make you proud. Love you.

xoxo

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16 comments:

  1. Congrats on a fabulous show and Happy Mother's Day!

    I thought I never listened to my mom either. Amazing how enlightening motherhood can be, right? (And, conversely, how much it can muddy the waters.)

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  2. What a wonderful loving post for your mom to wake up to this morning. It's funny how we think we are our own person until we are old enough to realize that we had a lot of help getting to the person that we are as mothers ourselves. I wish so much that I could have beeb there last night. From all the tweets I read, I know it was awesome. Happy Mother's Day Steph!!

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  3. Thank you for this special post. It was like unwrapping my Mother's Day gift. Who needs flowers, card, or breakfast in bed when you have something as special as this to wake up to on Mother's Day. I feel so blessed to have you as my daughter and I am so proud of everything you have accomplished. Sitting in the audience last night was one of the proudest moments as your mom. No matter what age your child is, it is always a great feeling to see them fullfill their dream. I love you so much, Mom
    And Happy Mother's Day to you too! xxoo

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  4. weeping...just weeping...[liz, from the SHOW]

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  5. Happy Mother's Day! You and your mom are so beautiful. Last night was great. I really enjoyed myself, and you guys did an amazing job.

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  6. Gorgeous.

    Also? Happy Mother's Day! And I can't wait to hear about Listen to Your Mother. Soon-ish. But no pressure. :)

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  7. Nikki MyszkowskiMay 08, 2011 10:34 AM

    Steph, you did such an amazing job last night. It was absolutely wonderful to listen to everyones stories. It really made me reflect on my own experiences as a daughter and mother. It was because of your show I was able to add the finishing touches to my mother's gift for today. I feel privilaged to have been siting in the audience for your big day. Congratulations, Happy Mother's day, and Thank you. We are listening to all the mothers out there.

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  8. Oh that is so true! I look back on a contentious relationship with my own mother and fear the teenage years with my daughter, and yet I know that I was still listening, still absorbing, and still being shaped into the person I am today by my mom.

    Happy Mother's Day to you!

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  9. Oh I am so glad your mom taught you to follow your dreams!!! You are a wonderful dreamer and I love reading about the dreams you dream as you follow them... Happy Mothers Day - you are such a fab mom to four of the cutest kids...

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  10. Children do not learn from what parents say as much as they learn from what parents do. So pay very close attention to what you do and the "what you say" will fall into place. The old saying "do as I say and not what I do" simply does not work.

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  11. i wasn't the greates listener either. but, maybe i was in the end?

    happy mother's day. you are a wonderful mother, daughter and friend!

    [that is a great picture!]

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  12. Gorgeous picture, sweetheart! Happy Mother's Day to one of my favorite mother-friends :)

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  13. You two ladies are beautiful together! I'm sure the show was wonderful. Can't wait to hear more about it!

    Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!!

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  14. I logged on today to see how it went! So excited that it went so well. Congrats. I was thinking of you and the whole cast. Can't wait for all the details.

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  15. Great post! Mother & Daughter relationships are sometimes treacherous territory. I am a little jealous that you and your mom have worked through some of the "issues" of adolescence to be able to be friends in adulthood. That is awesome!

    I, too, have a daughter and I wonder all the time what our relationship will look like in 10 or so years. I am trying very hard to lay a good foundation now, while she does still "like" me. :)

    Big hugs & Congrats on your show! Hope you had a fantastic Mother's Day!

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  16. I'm so glad that it went well! You look lovely in that dress, and I adore your mom's purse! :)

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