July 22, 2010

It might be me

I've taken your spot in the grocery line, when the cashier opens a new lane and you're next but she motions for me to move on over, she'll check me out. And I took it because I wasn't paying attention to who was next. I was checking my phone and digging for a coupon and trying to keep Ivy from jumping out of the cart and Gray away from the candy bars and lip balm and you had a little baby, too, but I didn't notice until I was already putting my groceries on the belt. And you watched me the whole time and probably thought I was so rude, like I did it on purpose. But I didn't. I promise.

I cut you off the other day in the parking lot. I was coming from the other side and got to the spot you might have been waiting for ? I'm not sure but the look you gave me said so.

And at the park when your son was crying and couldn't find you, I came looking for you to let you know. I didn't do it because I thought you should be a better Mom, believe me I like to chat with my friends, too, and lose sight once in a while, I just wanted to comfort your little boy.

It's not too big of me to read and comment on your blog even though you have way less comments than me.

It's not too big of me to read and comment on your blog even though you have way more comments than me.

Sometimes I just don't have the time at all to do either.

Please know that I almost always have the best of intentions. And I'll try to remember the same for you.

:)

48 comments:

  1. anyone who "knows" you (whether IRL or here) knows this about you ;o)

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  2. I love you and your heart for people and if I know anything about you, it's that you have pure, wonderful intentions.

    xo.

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  3. sigh...this is a great post. how very true. I have done (or not done) all of these things too. And it's not because I think I'm awesome or because I am a big huge jerk, I had good intentions. Unfortunately, my intentions? Don't come through for people to see. But they are there. This post is a wonderful reminder to all of us.

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  4. I know your intentions are always good.

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  5. beautiful. absolutely love it! I might have to write my own... if that's okay. {grin}

    britt

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  6. i think this is much of what I would say...i just didnt notice or didnt mean to come off like that...i am just in a mommy daze!

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  7. This reminded me of the time I accidentally cut off a bus driver, then went home and called the bus station to apologize.

    Yeah. I did that.

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  8. This was a good reminder for me. Because I probably would be the one scowling at you for taking my place in line... ;)
    At least you aren't the person that looks right at me and zooms in front clearly on purpose!

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  9. love this post.
    totally get it.
    i think we are in the same "place" right now.
    ~jenny

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  10. oh yeah, it was/is me too, totally. thanks for this little reminder!

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  11. i think this should be made into a country song. =)

    definitely mighta been me, too. [so why do i assume that that lady was calling ME a bad parent?] so much grace we give out to others and rarely the same to ourselves.

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  12. awesome!! I try to remember this every time I get frustrated with others because I know I offend people on accident just by being distracted by the little ones. We've all got our "stuff" so we should just try to be easier on each other...I know I appreciate it when others are easy on me.

    By the way, I'm super thankful for your honesty...and your really talented way of being so. :)

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  13. great post, I'm usually too busy thinking of the million things I have going on, to worry if someone took my place in line. I'm usually too concerned with keeping the kids calm, that I let others go before me, because I don't want to deal with dragging kids and cart over a aisle or two.

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  14. This made me smile... that's totally been me too...
    Maybe even today.

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  15. you are one of the sweetest gals I know.

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  16. Whenever people do things that irritate me, I always try to remember that they may be going through something quite stressful and to give them a break. Thank you for the additional reminder.

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  17. Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your compliments on my photo. I love this post of yours. So great and SO true. I'll try to remember it when someone takes my place in line next time ;)

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  18. i would love you for bringing back my kid, and i would never think you were judging me. and i would really love if everyone had your heart in situations like that, because if they did, they would have said something to me when lily ran off TWICE during the 4th of July parade this month instead of glaring at me when i finally realized she did and was panicking the whole 5 seconds it was (that felt like 5 hours!) from when i realized she was gone to the moment i found her. it would have been nice if THAT person had your sweet heart and returned her, instead of judging me for being a crappy mom and staring me down like they just got off the phone with DCFS.

    you're a great person. you're heart is made of gold.

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  19. I totally get this! And while my blog has just a few faithful readers that I am aware of, I am thrilled whenever anyone new/different comments there at random. I don't read another blog because I want mine to be read...I read b/c I enjoy it :)

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  20. you really are one of the nicest people i know.

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  21. Stephanie-
    After a very frustrating week, this lifted my spirit and helped me to remember me and feel like me again. Thanks you for writing it. With your permission, I'd like to print it out to keep with my devotional materials

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  22. Stephanie-
    After a very frustrating week, this lifted my spirit and helped me to remember me and feel like me again. Thanks you for writing it. With your permission, I'd like to print it out to keep with my devotional materials
    Denise

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  23. This is a beautiful reflection of your heart.

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  24. denise, of course! And I hope you have a peace-filled day.

    Steph

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  25. I have days exactly like that. ((HUGS))

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  26. Your heart is so big and so genuine.

    And I totally understand and get this.

    xo

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  27. Oh dear, this is perfect. Absolutely perfect.

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  28. You are real. So real and sweet. And that is why anyone who knows you or is exposed to you in any amount of time knows this.

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  29. Aw, you rock, Stephanie!

    People make mistakes. We all do it. But if we give each other a break we can stop the mistakes from piling on even more.

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  30. Yes, definitely. I think most of us have the best of intentions, sometimes though we just get distracted by life.

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  31. heehee this is great, these kind of posts are why I love blogs!

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  32. Beautiful.

    I would feel like a bad mom if you brought my crying kid over, but it wouldn't be your fault, and I would so appreciate it.

    I would, however, call you very bad names in my head for stealing my parking spot. I think I'll try to remember it's you the next time someone does it. It's easier to forgive you than some random stranger. I *know* what you're going through, I know you're just as frazzled as me, I know you didn't do it on purpose.:)

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  33. I think that just comes down to that we are all people. Sometimes we tend to forget that as we get wrapped up in our day to day, but we are nonetheless. Thank you for the reminder.

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  34. Oh, the same goes for me too...I love listening to you speak your heart and smile as so often it echos my own. {except you are much more eloquent!!}

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  35. It was probably me too!

    I often think these same thoughts when I am out and about. It's tough to concentrate on conversations and observe everything in your surroundings when you have kids in tow (which, in my case, is...um...pretty much always). ;)

    stephanie@metropolitanmama.net

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  36. Yet again this is why i adore you!

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  37. What a better place the world would be if we all agreed that most people have the best intentions.

    Great post!

    Jenn

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  38. oh gosh, that was probably me too - both in your shoes and in the other mom's shoes from time to time. Sigh... it's good to remember these things and think about it from all perspectives...

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  39. If there is one thing I've learned so much from in the past year (or so) - it's the power of assigning positive intent. I'm trying to live there.

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  40. Whenever me and my sister or mum would get wound up about a perceived wrong, my dad would always say "Cut them some slack." it's funny how that phrase comes back to me often. We're all doing the best we can. I think sometimes it's easier to cut each other some slack in "real life" than it is online. I wish it wasn't. I think that's part of the reason I hang out here - the grace is evident.

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  41. Oh Steph, I just love you, and I love this post. You are so right. It is so true. So often, it could be (and is) me.

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