I am not about to hate on some great opportunities I've been offered or, ahem, considered for in the past. But, it is very frustrating when the initial email greeting is flattering and "I love your blog I read it all the time and it was so cute what you wrote about (fill in fluffy summary of the latest post I wrote)" and yet I have to remind them that I have a 5 month old baby. And she'll need to be with me at all times. And then they aren't cool with that.
It's nice to hear that someone likes my blog! But it's even nicer to know someone is being honest. Don't pretend you know all about me and read everything I write if you really don't. I'd much rather someone say Hey, I'm new here but I can't wait to find out more. Or I just stumbled upon your blog and am interested in working with you.
It really doesn't have to be much. Just truthful. And real.
I don't want to seem ungrateful for some great offers I've had come my way, but it is disappointing when I get excited about something that we think you and your blog are perfect for! and then find out I don't qualify for some reason or the other. If only they could have figured that out before getting my hopes up or having me ask hubby to request vacation time.
So, I was so superly duper excited when I received the awesome and warm invitation to visit Hallmark's World Headquarters with a small group of fabulous bloggers for an exclusive Mom e-vent. Not only is it Hallmark, whom I already love, but there was something different about this email that gave me hope. It was personal, and the gal from Fleishman-Hillard acknowledged my first priority of being a Mom.
And offered for me to bring my older kids, too!
I especially loved this part : I’m sure Ivy isn’t leaving your side at the moment, so we hope you’ll feel free to bring her along!
I know it can not be easy for the wonderful people (many are Moms and Dads, too, and many are not) in public relations to reach out to the busy and harried and crazed and often ranting Mommy Blogger. And they certainly aren't lacking in learning (or fear) from others' big mistakes in the past.
How confusing it must be- as I am only speaking from my own personal wants- when what I strive for or think appropriate might be totally different than the next Mom Blogger.
We are a sensitive sort, but for good reason. And, yes, we are Moms. We have kids. Flying off to events and fun escapades is great. But what about the children?
They want to hear my opinions and create a buzz within our community, yet doing so takes me away from the very responsibility they even want me for in the first place. I have to be Mom.
I want to be Mom.
My rule of thumb is that I will not do anything or go anywhere unless my husband can be home to take care of the kids. Thankfully he has ample vacation time (and is eager to use it here and there) for when I might get to jet off somewhere fun in the name of my blog.
I understand that not every event and blogger outreach can accommodate children, and- let's be honest- I like it a lot when I get a Mom's night out or even weekend away. Just please, as someone that does not own a breast pump (scary!) and desires to keep her baby close at all times, be sensitive to nursing mothers.
I've decided to only take Ivy with me to the Mom-e-vent @ Hallmark next month, but I've already heard that some of the other bloggers are bringing their older kids. I am really excited to be reunited with some of my favorite online friends and new ones I've yet to meet. And how fun to be able to see them in their Mom Blogger element: laptop and/or iPhone in hand, ideas in their head, and child by their side.
Maybe we really can do it all... anything is possible.
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