December 4, 2008

What If I Didn't Put Up A Tree This Year?

It's four days into December and our home shows no signs of Christmas.

Normally I have the tree all up by the day after Thanksgiving and the house covered with the various Christmassy trinkets we've acquired over the years.

This year, to be honest, I'm tired. And just not in the mood. Each day passes and I have not even the slightest desire to decorate. A friend came over yesterday and held Ivy while I wrapped presents. I was hoping that would jumpstart my holiday spirit.

It didn't.

I don't know what it is! And it's not that I am not into Christmas because I am. I think maybe it's the whole meaning of it all. Maybe my age- does your thirties suck all the fun and excitement and materialism out of it?

I know my heart is in the right place- I understand how my desire to not overshadow the Real Reason may be causing the other things to grow strangely dim.

Will my kids need therapy if we don't do a tree?


Ok, ok! I might need therapy if we don't do a tree. Going to get one today.


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62 comments:

  1. I hear ya Steph....don't feel so bad. I have not put our tree up either! Am I a bad father? It's stuff to keep the spirit going in this economy but we all have to keep our spirits up! So just like you I will be getting our tree very soon! Hopefully today!

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  2. I too have been contemplating whether or not to put up a tree. My daughter will be at her dad's for two weeks this Christmas, so what's the point of decorating if it's just me?

    I think I'm just making excuses for being lazy.

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  3. I know what you mean. The older you get, the more Christmas seems like "work" than a holiday to enjoy. But you have to remember, it's a very magical time for your children. In remembering back to my childhood, the Christmas tree was MORE than just a tree and wasn't a chore in any shape or form! To me, it meant a time when me, my mom and dad all worked on one thing, at once - together. A time when it was good to turn off the tv and play Christmas albums (yes, albums). And when it was finished, we could sit back and keep talking about how it's the prettiest tree we've ever had - always better than the previous year (I still do that!)And then, I could lay under the tree and look up into it, making funny faces in the shiney ball ornaments. Even as an adult, it's the first thing me and my son do when the tree is all decorated. So, take a moment and look at Christmas through your children's eyes - and go get that tree! :)

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  4. I say, get a tree and let the kids decorate it. Sure, it won't look perfect or probably even nice, but it will mean you not doing it and you enjoying watching your boys, and that will hopefully help your spirit. You could even let the boys create the decorations with crayons, paper, and scissors.

    I don't think doing it that way will take anything away from the real meaning of Christmas.

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  5. Believe it or not, my family never had a Christmas tree growing up. It was my dad's decision, really. In some ways, I think I hardly noticed...although my husband and I do put up a tree in our house every year now.

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  6. Get that tree up girl! If you need moms help, let me know.

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  7. ok, I suggest you put on some Christmas music, (sufjan stevens christmas is my fav), read the "real" Christmas story today (you know which one I'm talking about)....and after that, decide if a tree is what your heart is after.

    I didn't feel like putting mine up either, but now that's it's up...I feel good. Makes the house feel homey.

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  8. I'm not feeling it this year either - the decorations are usually the only part I like! I just keep thinking that everything I get out has to back up...

    But, we did decide to go with a little tree in a pot instead of a big cut tree this year. I'm slightly excited about the cuteness of a tiny tree for Ellie. (I also got out mantle garlands, the wreaths for the front doors and the light up nativity for the yard, but that is as far as I am going this year. Oh, and the stockings, of course.)

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  9. I'm not feeling it either. I wrapped presents yesterday also, and I have no tree. I have no desire to get one. I guess I should, being that it's Alyssa's first xmas and I should take pictures, but blah!

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  10. Oh my Steph, I could have written your exact words. I just don't feel like it. I told dh last night "I guess you better bring the tree from the storage", but I just don't think I have it in me this year!!

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  11. Awww, why the general malaise about the holidays? I mean I was seriously ready to listen to the Christmas music early last month! I love this time of year. I surprisingly got my tree up over Thanksgiving week, even though I was under the weather. You'll get into it. I like to have it up as long as possible because the season is so short. I love to have the tree being the only light in the room and the snow is falling and the music is playing. Of course, now I have a cat AND a dog to watch out for and that joy usually does not last for long. They are SO curious about the tree!! LOL

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  12. I think you should bake some goodies with your kids and take them to a neighbor, the police department, the fire department, the local homeless shelter, or something.

    That puts everything back into perspective. :)

    We're doing a VERY small Christmas this year as far as gifts go, but I'm planning a lot of these "giving" activities with my kids.

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  13. Don't feel bad- I think that is normal after you have had a baby. The first year or so felt like that with Emily.

    I think the slump in economy is also a great excuse to tone down this year ;) I am using it- feel free to borrow that ;)

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  14. I think that there's a point to traditions - that the joy a child feels about Christmas can turn into the deeper joy that an adult feels, the joy that doesn't need a Christmas tree. But I think that making Christmas magical is our job and even if it's tiring and so forth, we still - as the parents - should do it.

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  15. Ha! I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Take your time. You have a small baby plus 3 others that need your attention!!!
    :)

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  18. Oh it is so nice to hear that I am not the only one feeling this way! There is no sign of Christmas in my house either, and I am normally the first one chomping at the bit to get it all done. Not this year... Honestly (as sad as this sounds... my poor kids) I could really care less if we didn't decorate. I'm really feeling not decorating this year... would that be horrible? *smile* Sorry bad I know...

    But just know you aren't alone. :)

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  19. I haven't done anything yet either, I'm just not in the mood this year. We've only done 1 craft project either so fa. It's just not the year.

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  20. Granted I only have a five-week-old, so it is a little different, but I am in the same boat. I am too darn tired to put anything up! I was thinking last night I may just put up nativities and reflect on the real reason this Christmas. And spend the time I would have spent decorating snuggling with my baby girl instead!

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  21. My kids pretty much decorated the tree this year (well, the older two) and it looks better than ever.

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  22. i'm feeling the same way this year. planning to get a tree today, but really not looking forward to decorating at all. think i'm going to go very simple and put out very few decorations.

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  23. Save your sanity! ;o) You know the real meaning of Christmas & you share it with your family. Two years ago, I was in a place that wasn't good for me & tore down my tree & all the decorations. At the same time, saying hateful things I didn't really mean. It was not good. I knew, ahead of time (before putting the tree up Thanksgiving night) that things were not good for me. I should've taken the hint. I took me well over a year to find a happy place again. Last year, I waited a few weeks into December to decorate & it made the world of difference! Don't force yourself to do something you're not ready to do, honestly, you might regret it.

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  24. I think you're attitude about Christmas changes, not only with age, but with knowledge of the real reason for the season. Materialism and commercialism make it hard to enjoy it all, because that is about all we see in our world. I think that's why we have to change our homes to reflect that meaning and work in our hearts and our children's hearts to celebrate for that reason instead!

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  25. Would your kids even let you get away with no tree? As little tykes we would have been all over our mom if there was no tree for Christmas. We were terrible. In fact, I'm not sure we've gotten any better. :)

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  26. We actually do not put up a tree---too long a story for a comment section and I am pretty sure that my kids won't need therapy because of it...but other things I've done will probably put them on that couch anyway. :-) Praying for you.

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  27. I am right there with you! The only thing I have out are the holiday placemats...and that was just because they were in the linen closet! lol. I don't think we are going to do a tree. Mainly because we are going to my parents and they will have one. We will let someone else to the work this year! lol

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  28. I haven't put up one decoration yet. I don't know what it is. I feel in the Christmasy mood when I'm out shopping but it's gone when I get home. I feel ya!

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  29. Sometimes you just need to relax and let the mood come to you. Play some soft Christmas music, put your feet up and drink some Apple Cinnamon tea. That always does it for me. :)

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  30. I think I might need therapy if you don't get a tree! I kid, of course!

    I hope you find the perfect tree and just smelling it and feeling it's needles wakes up the desire to Christmas-ize your home. If it doesn't, just let the kids throw some tinsel on it and call it done!

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  31. You took the words right out of my mouth. Too much going on this year and not enough time for me to get excited I guess...

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  32. You are not the only one who is just not in the mood for decorating. Everyone I talk to says the same thing and it doesn't matter what age you are. By the way, off the subject, have you tried Rooibus tea? It is caffene free, high in antioxidents and tastes good. Republic of Tea has a new line of herbal wellness teas out - great!

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  33. Our tree is up, but no decos this year. I find with each passing year, I hate the consumerism of Christmas more and want only to celebrate the real reason for the season!

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  34. We won't have a tree this year, at least not until Christmas Eve! Bria is such a busy little girl, and I'm sure our tree wouldn't last a day with her! Not to mention this morning sickness stuff just doesn't leave room for my holiday spirit.

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  35. At least the tree. The extra doo dads can wait this year. I didn't decorate at all for the fall which I ALWAYS do. I just needed a break this year!

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  36. Try playing Christmas music. That always gets me in the mood! Let your kids decorate it, that way you can have a little break.

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  37. I am SO with you. SERIOUSLY so with you. I decorated and I'm still not feeling it. Barely shopped, with no stores local to here, it has to be mostly online this year, and with deadlines approaching, i still feel NO DRIVE to do it. Ugh. Just ugh!

    Could be our 30s... could be just having a baby... not sure. But man oh man I need to snap out of it!

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  38. My decor does get up usually a day or two after Thanksgiving but I find as the years go on, I am putting up less & less decorations.

    I have an ample amount to fill each room with something, but seem to scale back each year and I don't know why.

    It's just little trinkets of snowmen, etc. and I just can't find it in myself to get it all up.

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  39. Can I PLEASE be the next baby holder while you wrap presents? Carter is just going to have get over this fear of Grayson the dinosaur. I have a baby to hold :)

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  40. So funny to hear. I've been doing the same thing. We are finally planning our tree decorating today, but it seems almost too late doesn't it, already being 4 days in. But we're ready and the kids are going bonkers to do it. Have fun picking out your tree!

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  41. I'm with ya1 We I mean, I usually have the tree and all the trimmings up before the 1st of Dec and the best I have done so far is replace the fall door mat with the winter one. I don't think we are hauling out the BIG tree this year either, just two small ones and all the house trimmings, hopefully I will be done getting it all out by Christmas Eve!

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  42. Yes, the 30s do suck all the fun out of EVERYTHING. Just joking! I think the economy is a downer and everything seems kind of crass in light of all the recession news. I suspect once you actually go through the motions of tree-hunting, you'll get more excited.

    We're going to get a small potted tree and plant it in the ground once the ground thaws, start a new family tradition this year.

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  43. Christmas is sooo much harder with a newborn. Don't sweat it at all. Last year Bri was only three months old at Christmas and I felt completely overwhelmed by the tree and everything. There wasn't enough time to eat and sleep, but on top of that I had to address cards, wrap presents and decorate? So the decorating fell by the wayside. And I was glad in January that I'd been a little lazier because packing it back up wasn't fun either.

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  44. I am so with you. When I was a kid christmas wasn't Christmas without a tree - my folks always sneaked it up on Christmas eve... as an adult we always had a tree - practicing for when we had kids and then when we had kids my need for a tree dissipated somewhat until about a year ago when we didn't have a tree at all (call it Christmas fatigue - we had builders, an unfinished kitchen, no bathroom to mention a new baby - eugh!) - the kids didn't really miss it, or even notice that it wasn't there, they decorated away as usual - they just decorated the windows and things... I needed a year off, I am back in the swing of it and my kids are loving creating decorations and goodies for their upcoming tree!

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  45. We don't know if we're going to decorate this year. I mean, we're moving mere weeks after Christmas; is it worth it?

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  46. Maybe it's because you have a brand new baby? I know that after I had my babies things were definitely more low key and different. Still fun! Cut your self some slack and enjoy your cuties! :)

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  47. We don't have our tree up yet either. I really wanted to put it up over the weekend, but since Boo has decided to pull up on everything we had to invest in a baby play yard to go around the tree first. I'm ready to get all the decorations going, but it is a lot of work.

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  48. We are going on holidays for Christmas, so we are not putting up a tree. If you don't need to put anything under it is so much work. I'll put some other decorations, but not the tree.

    Jenn

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  49. oh naw.. i think ur fine. My kids would of been happy had we just gone to SEE a christmas tree on Christmas day.. they do love having one tho. taites obessed with it... he yells "Pissmiss Tree" HAHAHAHA any time he sees it.. he isnt good at saying C sometimes :-\ It cracks me up.. bless his lil heart :-)

    Why not just get a tiny one for the boys, artificial?

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  50. We weren't going to do one this year because the new baby is coming right around there and the last thing I want to do is take down decorations but my oldest was just too excited about putting decorations up...so we did. Nothing fancy this year. Just a tree and stockings and a couple santas. And yes, I'm totally over the materialism of the season...makes me sad to see the REAL REASON being totally removed from the season.

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  51. i didn't put one up last year and it was the Best Decision EVER. i had a small fake one that i made my husband take down from the attic and put in the garage so it was accessible in case i freaked and *needed* one at the last minute - but i did fine. and was feeling great about life when everyone else was pissing and moaning about cleaning up from christmas in january (or february as the case may be!).

    and guess what - i'm not putting one up this year either! hah!!! maybe when the kids get older, but for now? no, thanks.

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  52. My husband and I didn't have a tree the first 7 years of our marriage! 'Course we didn't have kids either...

    We finally got ours up today. And if you need something to get you in the "spirit" of things---a yummy smelling tree will do it!

    Or do, what I do---mini trees for everyone!

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  53. WE haven't gotten ours up yet either...working on it. It's out of the basement but none of the lights work...hubby working on replacing bulbs...ACK! AS for the rest of the house, I am just not that organized. I am trying not to stress over it and know that it's not my decor that makes it Christmas! It's going so-so. :)

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  54. Once I got mine up it started feeling more and more like Christmas. I know the meaning isn't the tree, but the tree does have a little certain magic about it. I hope yours does too.

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  55. Our tree has been up for about 5 days but only has lights on it. Between schedules and illness we haven't been able to decorate at all.

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  56. My daughter is 2 and I'm seriouly don't want to condition her into thinking Christmas is a loot-fest. I just started reading $100 Holiday for ideas on how to have a simple, joyous Christmas. I want to have the gift of time vs. the gift of stuff. One tradition I've started that has been really fun so far is to let my daughter unwrap a Christmas book each night. (I've been buying them at yard sales and consignment sales for real cheap for a couple of years.)

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  57. We won't get a tree, again... although I'd love to have one - there just isn't a practical place in my house to put one. I will however get the other decorations out but probably not until next week - I'm still trying to get caught up on work and housework!

    One of my sisters has a birthday on December 15th and we never decorated until after her birthday - that way she still had "her day" so I still have a hard time getting much decorating done before then. :)

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  58. Getting the tree and decorating it really starts the season for me. We have some ornaments that I've had in my family since I was a kid. I'm sure you have similar ones. Once you get going with it, I'm sure the warm and fuzzy feelings will pop right up...even if you're so old as to be in your thirties. (Coming from an old woman in her forties.)

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  59. don't feel bad Christmas isn't all about a tree anyway. Or presents for that matter. If your heart is in the right place then whatever happens will be great a memorable!

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  60. For some reason, it was always hard for me the year I had a baby to get in the Christmas spirit. As you say, I was just too tired.

    Love your new bangs, by the way! :-)

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  61. You're not the only one, I'm having a hard time getting motivated to do anything Christmas-sy this year. I don't know why, it's my favorite time of year.

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  62. I feel the same way. We still haven't decorated!!!

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