August 26, 2008

Your Babywearing Questions, Part 2

From Ashley- My son is 11 months old now... and so "independent." I would still love to wear him sometimes (especially in the evening when he's not so independent but whiny and tired wanting to be held but I'm cooking dinner:), but I don't think I have the right sling/carrier for us.

The first thing that comes to mind is a mei tai- especially if you can wear him on your back. You can see me doing something like this in the kitchen here!

From T-
What is your advice for type of sling/carriers to get right from the get-go?

My personal preference is a ring sling for newborns and when you are first starting out. I find them easiest to use and most comfortable. I do encourage Moms to wear baby not just in the cradle hold carry (as most babies tend to fuss at this position) and instead position them with their tummy to your chest- also called the Tummy To Tummy, Snuggle Hold, or Vertical Carry, with their head high enough- you should be able to kiss the top of their head! Another great newborn carrier is a wrap.

From Miche- I am having a hard time figuring out how to carry the baby and have them lined up for nursing without having to just flash everyone.....

I have some good breastfeeding while babywearing tips in a previous posts here. My best suggestion is to wear a nursing top or layered top so that you can pull up the top shirt and still have something underneath so you don't feel like you are bearing all. I usually turn to the side or use the sling as a cover until baby is latched on. Practice in front of a mirror if you can, too!

From Blessedw5mom- If you could only bring one carrier on a long trip, which one would you choose?

I would choose a mei tai for a long trip. I find that it's the most versatile and best for longer carries- the two shoulder support is much easier on my back and I always found Gray to nap better in this type of carrier.

From Jenny- Do you think it's okay to wear a baby boy in a girly-colored carrier because you (the mother) are a girl and like the color? Or should moms of boys only use boyish-colored slings?

I think it is perfectly fine to wear a sling that is feminine when you have a son, and same with wearing a masculine sling if you have a girl. The sling should make sense with your style and your outfit, not necessarily your baby's! This was also discussed at the Babywearing In Style class I attended at the Babywearing Conference this year.

I will continue with Your Babywearing Questions as long as you keep asking! I still have plenty more to answer, and plan to do some videos for you once the baby is here!

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  1. I'm looking forward to wearing Dash in the wrap when he's a tiny baby... to see if he likes it being in the tummy to tummy.

    I still need to buy a ring sling and give that a shot. I want something easy for nursing and everyone is telling me that is the one to use.

    I love my mei tai for bigger babies/toddlers. It's soooo easy for me to use and they seem to really like it. I love carrying bigger toddlers on my back.


  2. Well, I am going to try out the babywearing this time with Ivy when I babysit. I should have tried more with Gray.

  3. Ohh thanks for all the tips! I think I finally have nursing in the ring sling down. I really want to try a mei tai when Jr gets bigger for a back carry.

    Right now he fusses in the cradle hold, so I use the bjorn a lot-I am working on getting the ring slip tummy to tummy carry down-that seems like it will be much easier to get on and off quickly, but I am nervous about not having him in there tight enough or too tight...Ill post pics when I finally get it down.

  4. Thanks for all the great information.

    Do you know of any way to wear twins? I don't have twins myself, but I am a therapist who works with many parents of multiples. I think it would be great if they could wear them at the same time, but I can't figure out how that would work.

    Thanks again,

  5. I use the same carriers with Gabriel that I did with Ella. I love them too much and they are too $$$ to switch them out to be gender appropriate! Strong colors and neat prints work well for both sexes.

    I like this series of posts, Steph. I think a lot of people are intimidated by baby carriers and they think if they've tried one that didn't work that babywearing isn't for them. It takes trial and error and different babies like different carriers!

    Also, I never got the hang of a ring sling, pouches and Mei Tais are the easiest for me!

  6. My babywearing question is...

    Is this the last baby you'll be wearing?!


  7. Great post! I have always worn my babies (although I didn't enjoy the mei tai style so much, but I LOVE my pouch style sling and still use it constantly for my 9 month old!) but don't have many IRL friends that "get" the baby-wearing thing.

  8. Wow this post really came at a good time for me. My little guy turned 1 mo yesterday and I've been trying to figure out the sling thing. I have my Bjorn from my first two children which works but I guess I'd like to know if there is anything that works better.

    I picked up a beautiful RubyToots sling pouch to try. I feel like I still have to keep my hands on my babe though or he'll fall out. Maybe I'm just not doing it right. I'll have to do some checking on the sling that you recommended for newborns. Thank you so much!

    By the way, my mom always told me that I brought on my firstborn's dependency issues by carrying him all the time. She said "if you don't put him down he'll always want up!". I really like the baby wearing idea but I think her words still ring in my ears and I flounder a bit on what to do. Have you heard this before?

    I can't wait to read about your birth. I'm putting my birth story together to post over at

    Thanks again!

  9. I wanted to ask how much time you carry your babies throughout the day? I try to carry my daughter (6 mo.) in a wrap as much as I can, but there are lots of things I can't do with her in it very well, dishes, crafts, etc. Do you carry your babies ALL the time? ONe hour a day? What is a good amount, what is too little? She gets fussy in it sometimes, and she likes facing out but hates to have her legs constrained, so it is tough ,. . .


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