July 14, 2008

I'll Tell You How I Do It

You're either asking it or thinking it, so I'm just going to tell you the secret to how I seem to do the many things I do. It's two very important words...

My Husband.

Of course, I do not mean to imply that I put my husband above God because really and truly God is the reason for everything in my life. However... I know that my hubby is a rare commodity, if you will. A huge gift from Above. He is an incredible father and husband, and together we are a team. He supports me even when I have the occasional (or often) crazy idea (like maybe switching to homebirth at 30 weeks) and I do the same for him.

Just the other night it was his idea to watch The Business of Being Born. He has only positive and exciting things to say about the upcoming homebirth of our baby girl. This means sooooo much to me. And is quite attractive, I must say. : )

Yesterday after my photo shoot I came home and he insisted I go to bed. He was taking the kids to church and then also made the genius decision to let me have the house all to myself as long as possible, so he took them to lunch (to a restaurant and not fast food), to get his hair cut, and then to the grocery store!

And you want to know the best part? He never once complained about it. If anything, he actually enjoyed it. He only wanted to be sure that I was rested and had a peaceful time alone.

This week he'll be taking vacation time so that I can gallivant off to San Francisco for Blogher. And he's so thrilled for me to have such an opportunity.

If it weren't for him, I would not be able to commit to so many projects and events. I could probably work myself into the wee hours without ever having a break, true, but that is not a way to live. Instead, my superhero of a husband enables me to have down time and girl time and times of refreshing and renewing that really do make all the difference.

And some of you may be thinking that, well, they're his kids, too, and he should do all these things. He knows that. But the fact that he does it so well and so effortlessly without me ever having to ask, and on top of already working so hard at his own career... it's something I am not ashamed to be so thankful for. And I can't often say the same about myself.

We value each other in a way that I wish I knew how to better explain. We understand and appreciate that we both are far from perfect.

But most importantly, we know without a doubt that we are perfect for each other.


56 comments:

  1. Beautiful relationship. I feel quite blessed with my husband as well. We're both blessed ladies and our hubby's are too ;)

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  2. Sounds like you got yourself a good one!

    Are you nervous about having a home birth?

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  3. Oh Steph, it's so nice to hear about your wonderful relationship. I have one that is very similar and I try to cherish my husband every day. He even gave me some "kid-less" shopping time this weekend! Now THAT is a great husband! ; )

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  4. Having a supportive spouse is all the difference in the world. I don't know what I would do without the support of my husband. Your plate is full so I know what a difference that makes on how you can juggle it all.

    Have fun at BlogHer. I will definitely be going next year :)

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  5. What a beautiful picture you've painted, Stephanie. Sounds like your husband does a great job of putting you above himself.

    My husband and I talk a lot about companionship being the key to a great marriage -- and a lot of that includes willing support for the other.

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  6. Oh what a sweet post you 2 are so lucky and yes God did created both of you to compliment each other and it is a blessing!

    Hope you have a nice vacation!

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  7. Wow - I just checked in to your blog after being gone all last week. A lot has transpired! Home birth decision, new website launch, photo shoot, bloggy meet-up and more - you must be a bit dazed by it all. I loved this post, but already figured you had a pretty wonderful husband. I've got a keeper too and I can't imagine life without him. God knew what he was doing when he created marriage!

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  8. Fabulous post! I knew you had a secret!!! :) Sounds like a good team!

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  9. I've got the Business of Being Born here from Netflix now. Is it awesome?

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  10. Awe. That is very sweet.

    Michelle (Scribbit) sent me over. I'm her roommate at BlogHer. We are getting in at the same time Thursday and she said that you may be saying hello at the hotel. So, I wanted to come over and say, "Hello!" beforehand.

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  11. There isn't any way you could, perhaps, clone him is there?

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  12. I took a peek at the photo shoot pictures and they really are stunning. You look lovely.

    The Business of Being Born is a powerful film. My husband and I watched it together a few months ago. Quick question about home birth: does insurance typically cover that?

    Oh, and your description of your husband made me think of my husband. He is amazing and there is no way that I could do everything that I do and be everything that I am without him. (By the way, I've been meaning to ask you...what is your husband's profession?).

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  13. I think that is why God intended for us to get married. What would we do without our husbands?!?!:)

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  14. It sounds like you got a great man! And, yes he should help, but a lot of guys are kind of blind when it comes to things like that.

    I got a good one, too. I'm glad, I haven't been easy to deal with, lately.

    I thought you had decided to have a hospital birth...

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  15. Your baby belly pictures look so lovely!

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  16. That's so great to hear nowadays! I hear so much negative stuff about husbands and I'm frankly tired of it.

    My husband is amazing, too. He's extremely thoughtful and involved in this pregnancy. I find myself thanking the heavens above for finding such an amazing man to have a family with. I know he's going to make an amazing dad to our son.

    Also, I commend you for going the home birth route! I'm going with a birthing center (with midwives), which has the comforts of home birth and not all the clean-up. ;-)

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  17. I had my 4th baby at home and it was the best experience. I switched when I was about 24 weeks along and everything was great. I am now getting ready to have my
    4th baby at home about the same time as you and wouldn't think of ever doing it any other way. Good luck and trust God he is with through all of it.

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  18. Thank you for sharing something positive about your husband. Too many women these days fail to be nice about their spouse. I hate that women get together and commence complaining about their husbands. Yours sounds like a great guy and reminds me to tell mine how great he is too.

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  19. That's awesome, Steph! He's a good man. I can't wait to see your pics from Sunday.

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  20. It sounds like God created the two of you to compliment each other beautifully. I loved reading this, and he definitely sounds like a keeper. I love that he suggested watching The Business of Being Born! My husband watched that with me, as well, and then proceeded to tell his family why natural birth is the way to go...I melted a little.:)

    Your photo shoot photos are (not surprisingly!) stunning. I love your outfit!

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  21. The pictures are beautiful!

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  22. I have to admit that I do have the best son-in-law and could not be more pleased that he is the father of my grand-children. God had you both picked out for one another for sure....I always prayed for God to send you the one he chose you to be with and he did answer my prayer.

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  23. Yes, being a team is SO important. You both were definitely made perfect for each other, and knowing him personally I can say that he's an incredible friend as well as hubby! We're blessed have BOTH of you in our lives.

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  24. Oh Steph this was a GREAT post. I know that when Adam and I start our family he will be like your husband in many ways. Adam already says things to me that make me pause and think "Thank GOD we're tackling this crazy life TOGETHER!"

    Such as, he's already said we're going to be fighting over who gets to hold the baby when we have one and that unless I'm breastfeeding, HE wants to be holding the baby, preferably in a sling. Seriously, where did I find him!? I really don't know where I would be without him. :) I love how much we love our husbands!

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  25. Sounds like a keeper to me!

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  26. That was beautiful. I feel the same way about my hubby and the thing is that he or I probably wouldn't be as good with someone else! God knew what He was doing when he put us and you guys together. God is so good.

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  27. Mr. AIB here: Thanks for the kind words, babe, you're easy to love. That's why I proposed after we dated for only 3 months. I couldn't let you get away. Now if only I could make you laugh without tripping over something or injuring myself in some way. Then life would be truly perfect. I may never understand your "America's Funniest Videos" humor. I love you girl, you make me proud.

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  28. Stephanie, that was a beautiful post about your hubby. You are a lucky girl, indeed! Have a wonderful time at Blogher.

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  29. What means the most is that you don't even have to ask!

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  30. Hi Steph, oh those pics are stunning!! i love the colors... beautiful job.. you make any woman want to be pregnant if they look like you!

    Im glad to hear you and your husband have such a wonderful marriage.. thats a rare thing these days... truely a blessing.

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  31. Oh, how sweet is THAT???? He sounds wonderful and I'm so happy he is such an equal partner - you are very lucky!! Good luck with the homebirth, I am eager to read all about it :-)

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  32. And you don't have to ASK? He IS a gem!

    My hubby is wonderful, and he LOVES to do stuff with our Ladybug. But I usually have to ask. I'm learning....

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  33. It's so refreshing to hear somebody saying such nice things about their hubby. I too am blessed with a truly nice guy for a husband and he also freely gives his time so that I can go hang with my girls. Thanks for sharing the special relationship that you have. Oh and by the way I gave you an award today over at my place!

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  34. He sounds like a keeper Steph!!

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  35. You guys sound a lot like my hubby and I!

    It makes things a lot easier and a marriage more enjoyable when you have such a wonderful mate and I am glad you have that in him!

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  36. Wow! Sounds like the male version of you!

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  37. Sounds like a wonderful relationship! Your photos are AMAZING!!

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  38. Well you both are blessed to have each other!

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  39. Ok first, absolutely stunning pictures! You look great :)

    Second, aren't these husbands just amazing?? Yours sounds a lot like mine. I couldn't do anything I do without his support. It's always good to hear praise for husbands instead of complaints.

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  40. Sounds like a wonderful man! So nice to read your post. Have fun at BlogHer.

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  41. Wow! He sounds amazing! You are such a lucky lady! :)

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  42. It seems that I often hear women complain about their husbands. It is so refreshing to hear the opposite.

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  43. Awww, a good husband makes all the difference in the world, doesn't it? Mine does his own laundry and makes his own breakfast and lunch. And just this weekend he cleaned the whole kitchen for me. *love*

    Now can you tell me the secret to getting so many comments, other than being gorgeous and interesting (you, not me, lol).

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  44. I am so happy you have Jeff. I hope we get so hang out with you guys when we come back in December. Your photos are beautiful.

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  45. you are blessed indeed :) i feel the same way about my hubby~ i honestly don't know what we would do without each other!

    oh, and a funny side note~ my husband and i went to see a screening of the BOBB on our wedding anniversary last sept. and he was totally fine with that!! :D

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  46. So awesome! I feel that my husband will be the same way when we have kids one day! I am so happy for you!

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  47. You guys have a beautiful relationship, and its SO obvious. What a sweet way to recognize him, especially since he actually READS your blog! :)

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  48. Have yourself a homebirth, girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  49. So maybe you should enter this into Scribbit's "Super Woman" writing contest. Your marriage is the type that will last for 65+ years. Having a love for Christ makes all the difference when it comes to marriage. Good for you for being thankful. Dr. Laura would be pleased.

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  50. Steph, you two are indeed blessed and lucky to have each other. Your photos turned out AMAZING!!!

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  51. Everyone needs a hubby like that!

    BTW, the photo shoot pics look amazing! You are beautiful!

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  52. That is wonderful, its true every father should do these things but not many do. My husband adores and cherishes our girls and i would not be able to do it with out him.

    Im also planning a homebirth with this baby, think we are due around the same time - im 13th September

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  53. Wow, you are so lucky to have such a helpful husband. How did you find him! I live within two hours of the blog conference and I couldn't get hubby to watch my two girls. As a matter of fact I can rarely get him to watch them. Have fun, I am sure you will.

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  54. I love that you recognize this and tell others. I am sure it does your hubby good to hear his horn tooted!

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