February 24, 2008

Goodbye, Boo

It's officially over. This is the fourth straight day that Gray hasn't nursed. The past several weeks have been out of our usual routine due to my severe morning sickness, so the thought of breastfeeding has really been very far from my mind. Without planning it, we naturally tapered off while I tried to get my rest and strength back. But soon he was going to bed without boo. Then waking without needing it. And now we're four days in of no more boo.

I am not thrilled with the circumstances, but have to honestly say that this happened much more smoothly that I had imagined. We didn't have "one last nursing session" to cherish as I didn't know that last time in bed would be it. But, just as our entire nursing relationship was peaceful and natural, I feel that we did the same going out. Emotionally, I was ready. And as I look at my little boy- oh, he's turned into such a little boy... he was ready, too.

51 comments:

  1. This kind of made me weepy. What a tribute to your relationship. Beautiful.

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  2. That's how it should be...natural and easy. I know it can be emotional, but soon there will be another one needing his mommy all hours of the day. And so it continues. I hope you're feeling better, Steph. I've been thinking of you, knowing you've been feeling so bad, and hoping you're coming 'round the bend a bit. Hang in there!
    Happi

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  3. Awww. I'm glad that it worked out for both of you the way that it should, peacefully, naturally. And you'll have a nice little Boo break before the next comes along (and we WILL do nursing pics this time!)

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  4. Im glad it went well.. they do grow so fast. when the new babe comes we got to give you a new header ;-)

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  5. OOPS! I just re-read what I wrote and realized I said, "HIS mommy!" I meant to say his OR hers. : ) A little slip of the tongue there.
    HUGS!
    Happi

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  6. I'm glad it was easy for you. I didn't get this far with my daughter and I'm wondering how it will be with my son. My mom asked the other day if I am ready to wean. I said no. She said the baby might be ready. But I gotta tell you he still wants his mama. Just for a quick nip before bedtime, for a few minutes when I get home from work.

    He can fall asleep on his own when someone else puts him down, but if I'm home, he likes to snuggle in to me for a few minutes. I think it's quiet time and alone time that he doesn't get because of his rowdy sister.

    I have stopped pumping at work in the last few weeks. Never liked doing it. Some days I'm achy by lunchtime. I keeping my pump there just in case.

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  7. I didn't know you could nurse when you were pregnant. Wow, I learn so much from you!

    Glad it went well. It sounds like you were both readyA!

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  8. I didn't know you could nurse when you were pregnant. Wow, I learn so much from you!

    Glad it went well. It sounds like you were both readyA!

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  9. awww, big hugs steph! it sounds like a nice, gentle weaning and that is what all mamas wish for, right! :) i am glad it went so well.

    and yes, how do they just turn into little boys in an instant??!!

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  10. Aidan weaned the same way. I wasn't deliberately having a last nursing session or anything, and then he was done. I felt saddened that I didn't stop to treasure it more, but then peacefulness took over. I'd rather have it transition that smoothly, than have it stand out more because we weren't in agreement or ready to end it, kwim?

    Thank God snuggling never has to end, right? Now you can find a new way for the two of you to enjoy your time together. And heck! I'd be out shopping for fun NON-nursing bras to wear. You know, until a few more months when you need them again. ;)

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  11. I am glad you are at ease with this big step! I am sure being sick has not made it easy on you or your body to keep up with the demands of a nursing child.

    I am not sure if this has anything to do with it or not ( I just found your blog and have not had a chance to catch up), but I have heard that many babies do not like the taste of breastmilk from a mom who is pregnant. I have heard it changes the flavor of the milk.

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  12. Oh so sweet...this post brought tears to my eyes. I hope that my breastfeeding relationship ends with my daughter just as smoothly and gently...

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  13. Hon, that is lovely. Bittersweet, as is every new stage with parenthood. I'm glad for you both that it was peaceful and not traumatic. All of my nursing endings have been traumatic... It pains me...

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  14. Very nice that it ended so peacefully... but there is a possibility that he will ask to nurse again when the milk fairy blesses you!

    Have you ever tandem nursed? I did with the last 3 and it's got benefits to be sure, but it's hard at times.

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  15. I dunno. Xander went 1 week in between nursing sessions at the very end of his nursing season. He did that 3 or 4 weeks in a row...so you may get the one last nursing session before it's over. Either way, you will have awesome memories of nursing him, esp since you have pics! You are a great mom! Hope you are feeling better soon.

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  16. Bittersweet.... but what a blessing that he nursed for so long!

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  18. Oh, it makes me teary. So bittersweet.

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  19. I only hope that when our "time" comes for this it's as beautiful as yours was - He's one lucky boy to have a mama like you!

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  20. A very blessed little boy. So glad it was smooth.

    Funny how those "big moments" can be so small and sudden.

    Hope this morning sickness leaves you soon.

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  21. Peaceful and natural. That's what I hope for me and my daughter. Thank you for sharing the benefits of exteneded breastfeeding on your blog. It has given me courage to be bold in spite of my mother's comments. Hugs.

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  22. A little bittersweet, no? Glad it was time for both of you and that it was a gentle transition. :)

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  23. I'm glad it went so smoothly. I hope you're feeling better.

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  24. how sweet and lovely! I am glad it went smoothly too.

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  25. I totally feel your pain Steph. Weaning Miller was so hard and sad. We hadnt planned on anymore babies so this was it...that last session I just cried....he called it ta ta...I remember Scott saying you can keep nursing honey as long as you want too. I weaned Miller at 14 months....one of the hardest things....I'm sending you hugs.

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  26. That made me kind of sad. I remember the last few times I nursed Landen. It was soon before Amelia was to be born. I cherished those times!

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  27. Isnt it so sad.. I nursed my first.. he self weaned at around 12 months... I was devastated but held on to the fact I would have another baby.

    I had my second and was only able to nurse him for 3 1/2 weeks to me getting something called (nipple vasospasms) Anyway, be so greatful he nursed this long and in a few short months you will have a whole new baby who's going to want the boo for a very long time :-)

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  28. Sniff.... You know, I DID know when it was the last time I nursed The Baby and it was HEART RENDING! Far better, I think, for it just to gently end like this.

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  29. I wish that I could say that I enjoyed the nursing experience, I did it because it was best for my babies. Now with my third, Colin, my experience nursing was sooooooooo much more positive and easy. I was happy that I had one good experience out of my 3 kids. How old is Gray?

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  30. Good for you! Now you only have 7 months or so of freedom before you have to start all over again (said the pot to the kettle).

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  31. That is sad and bitter sweet but what a smooth transition. Sounds like he knew your body needed the rest. What a great nursing relationship you've had!

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  32. Congrats... on nursing for so long, and for weaning successfully and naturally. Hope you feel better soon! (if it's a girl, will she be a Ruth?)

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  33. What a sweet post. So many commenters are saying "how sad", but I don't read this and hear you feeling sad. Bittersweet, yes, but you both are ready!

    When done naturally you really don't have that "last one", do you? You don't know it's the last. Don't be surprised if he comes back in a few days to try it out for maybe what really is the last time.

    What a milestone! So happy that you will get a little break before the new peanut arrives. Miss you.

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  34. the two of you had an amazing ride though...huh?

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  35. This post made me a bit sad too. I can remember my youngest weaning himself, and I wasn't really mentally prepared for it, but it just kind of happened. For me, it's sad because I know that Owen is my last baby, but you can be happy for the fact that you'll have another little bundle to nurse!:)

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  36. I know how bittersweet it feels. How wonderful for you both that it ended naturally with no abrupt changes and that Gray led the way and made the transition without being forced. I had to wean Ella last July abruptly and I still feel sad about it when I look back even though she was 25 months old when it happened. It would have been nice if she had been the one to make the choice for herself.

    Soon you'll have a new little baby to nurse and you will get to enjoy that very special bond all over again. Hugs to you both.

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  37. I'm so glad it happened so naturally for you and Gray. How it should be! I know it's bittersweet, though!!

    Jane, Pinks & Blues

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  38. Your Friend, NellFebruary 25, 2008 4:05 PM

    I'm sure that had to be bittersweet. I never nursed enough to know the real pain of letting go of the nursing but you've done an amazing job and when it's time to end, it's time to end. Glad to know it went so smoothly. You'll have another one calling you his/her boo soon!

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  39. Such a bittersweet time. At least you guys were both ready and it happened naturally. Now you can look forward to nursing #4. :-)

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  40. I am so with you...Kaelin is down to once a day...and everyday I'm like "maybe today is the last..." and then the next day, I nurse her again. It's our special time together...

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  41. It is better that way, that's for sure. It's still hard, though.

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  42. I'm glad the transition went well. It's always a little bittersweet when it's time to stop nursing a little one.

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  43. awww, i've got tears in my eyes. it sounds like it went exactly as it needed to and he was certainly ready. big hugs, mama.

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  44. That's funny, Lilla calls my breasts boo boos. :) I actually ended at 14 months because I thought it would get her to start drinking milk, yeah, that didn't work. I would never have finished so soon had I known what would happen. It was very natural though, she just woke up one day and stopped asking for it. Which was strange since she was so attached to my breast and I thought it would be ugly. It wasn't though and I have such fond memories of that time together.

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  45. How bitter sweet. I think My Little Man might be done with boo also(and yes boo is what he calls it too) It hit me lastnight when I went to bed that He hadn't nursed in about a week.. Then in the middle of the night lastnight he woke up climbed in bed with me and I think out of habit started to nurse He only stayed on for like 2 or 3 seconds then rolled over and went right back to sleep..
    I know he is a big boy now and I'm very happy he weaned on his own just like his big sister did.. but I'm sort of sad seeing as how he is our last and this means the end of nurseing for me.
    I'm not sure if I should say congrats for your boy growing up and for easy weaning.. Or I'm sorry that it is coming to an end.

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  46. Part of the reason this is so heart-wrenching is because you know he's growing up, no?

    Sound like the perfect ending to a beautiful thing to me...

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  47. Reminds me of how I stopped nursing my first. I was pregnant with my second and although this isn't supposed to happen, it dried up my milk supply. That's part of how I found out I was pregnant. My 11 month-old took it casually...we had some really short nursing sessions at the end and he was biting me and I didn't know why. Then he just stopped trying. He just figured he'd tapped me out. I was fine with stopping nursing but was dissappointed that I didn't know our last nursing session was our last nursing session at the time. That made me a little sad.

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  48. I had the same experience with my last baby. I had hoped to have him breastfeed just a little longer than necessary, but he just sort of weaned himself without either of us realizing it. It's so bittersweet - you want them to grow and become independent, but its so hard to let go and allow them to grow up.
    This is probably my last baby, too, so that means I'll have no more "last nursing sessions" to cherish. At least I had 12 good months...

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  49. what a beautiful post!!
    Hope you're getting the much needed rest too!

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  50. I agree, at least you'll have a little break ebfore the new baby.

    I was sad in a way when Sarah stopped nursing, it was a special bond

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  51. I'm crying..one day it will end.

    I hop it will go as peacefully as it did with you. Right now even the thought makes my heart hurt!

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