August 27, 2007

Confessions Of A Really Bad Housekeeper

With school starting this past week I am hoping to finally fall into some sort of routine. Lately, the following has been my current schedule for housecleaning:

-My flip-flop is officially stuck to the kitchen floor: I guess I need to mop.

-Kids have to drink their morning OJ out of fine goblets: maybe I should do the dishes.

-Kids wear Christmas pjs to bed (it's August): time to do some laundry.

-Hubby towels off with a yellow ducky hooded towel: time to do more laundry.

-Kids have made drawings in the dust on my dresser: I probably should get out the Pledge.

-"Wouldn't it be fun if we went out to eat as a family tonight?!": I really need to get groceries.

Please tell me that you are not repulsed by my nice housecleaning schedule, but rather, you can relate.

And I am feeling a little bit validated after catching a small mention in the recent issue of Baby Talk about the new book A Perfect Mess: The Hidden Benefits of Disorder. Although I rarely agree with anything published in that magazine, I definitely will agree with what this book suggests. Such as: clutter can provide stimulation for developing minds. Your kids "mix and match things in creative ways. Having lots of things to look at and manipulate can be good for small brains," says co-author David H. Freedman.

Hmmm. I will say that I think that I am happier and more productive when I have a clean house, but when was the last time I put myself first? I think I can put off vacuuming for one more day, you know, for the sake of my kids' creativity and all...

Cross posted at the Chicago Moms Blog.

46 comments:

  1. The rest of my house is tidy as we have a live-in housekeeper, but the weekends, well...untidiness is just organised mess isn't it?? :-)

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  2. My hubby and I joke around that we really should start having company over at least once a week because that's the only time we do any kind of real cleaning!

    Jane, P&B Girls

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  3. You have three children...cut yourself some slack! It'll get done! But, like you, if my laundry is done and the house is clean, I seem to have more relaxed time at home and I get ready easier, cook food easier...everything flows MUCH better! I try to do it once a week and not think about cleaning and laundry.

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  4. Confession: this morning on my shower door someone wrote "clean me". Thanks, Steve!

    Lori

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  5. awe lol... the hooded towel one was really good.
    I think its funny.. but I know its probably frustrating.
    Ive been caught up w/ house work since not having the internet at home.
    I amazenly dont even use a hamper anymore!! I just do laundry once a pile is ready. works great.

    One thing I find that keeps me ahead is

    1. Make sure all my dishes are done before going to bed! Doesnt mean all put away after being washed. Just make sure they are washed :-) [I dont have a dish washer so its all by hand...]

    2. Pick up ALL toys at night (unless its in the boys rooms... those sometimes wait haha)

    3. Make my bed 1st thing in the morning

    4. If a loads ready, start it first thing in the morning.

    Thats all and it helps SO MUCH!!!

    ok Calebs calling mommy... mommy... you want it up? mommy? you want it up mommy? you want it up mommy? am I the only one w/ a 3 yr old that repeats himself a million times until you repeat it back to him? LOL
    He wants the recliner leg up. ;-)

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  6. I can totally relate. And I say skip the vacuuming cause there is nothiing more stimulating to a baby than crunched cereal and pet hair!

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  7. I don't usually like to admit it, but my house sounds the same way. It's not "dirty" so to speak, but it definitely is a bit "messy." My laundry situation is just out of control, and once I get it under control, I collect the hampers, and it's out of control again! Uggghhhh!! I'm hoping once my oldest starts school, I can get more accomplished at nap time.

    The way I look at it is that the kids are only going to be this little for a short time. Once they're all in school, I'm not going to know what to do with my time! So until then, I'll sift through mounds of clean clothes to find a pair of underwear.:)

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  8. I always say, "I never said I was a good housekeeper" to my husband. I make sure he knows that wasn't part of our vows.

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  9. oh steph~

    i know exactly what your going through..an i only have ONE 5 month old baby boy...LOL.

    jen

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  10. LOL I can totally relate. My house is always a mess. I just tell myself that there's no point in really cleaning because within an hour Toddler will have it trashed again lol.

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  11. Ok, my confessions is...our bathroom trashcans are overflowing. Yuck! I'm not repulsed by you at all, I've got similar situations.

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  12. Just sign my name to the bottom of your confession as well!

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  13. Your so funny. The hooded towel really got me laughing. Friday I had a friend over, and we were only downstairs for like 5 minutes, but thats when she desided to use the bathroom. I said "NO, not that one. It gross. Use the one upstairs." The boys are the only ones who use the downstairs one and I don't clean it nearly as often as I should. Like before company comes over....

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  14. This made me laugh; especially the part about the clutter stimulating young minds. It's good to know that the stuff that migrates about on our floors is really helping Little learn. :-)

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  15. See, all this time I thought I was hindering my kids with a cluttered house and I'm actually helping them!! ha!! You're a hoot! It's hard to get back into a schedule isn't it??

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  16. It's nice to know that hooded yellow ducky towel is going to a good use. You'll have all the time in the world to clean house in about 18 years and you'll wish you had some of that clutter back (not really). Doesn't one of your boys like to run the vacuum cleaner? So what if he doesn't get in the corners, you are really only concerned about the traffic areas and you'll still be stimulating the boys. I'll bet if you're not too fussy you could get Gray to mop the kitchen.

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  17. The only time my house has stayed clean was when I had no little kids under 5yo. AND I had to have my rental house inspected every three months, lol.

    However, I never have dust on my dresser, ever. I keep it so piled with folded clothes that no dust could ever acumulate! It works for me!
    I am getting a little scared to take a shower, so I think I should spend some time cleaning in there today. And please, PLEASE don't open my fridge!
    OH, well, don't even bother going in my bedroom at all, because the laundry is well past overflowing in there.
    I think I'll stop here.
    You are not alone!

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  18. We should totally have a blog carnival or whatever you call it where we all confess what our house ACTUALLY looks like and what our cleaning schedule really is. Because this made me feel so much better (now if only hubby would read it!)! My house is really very similar to yours right now!!

    There was a study recently released about how kids who live in really clean and sanitary households are more likely to have allergies and asthma and the like. I was like, "See? THAT'S why my house isn't very clean...it's on purpose...all for the health of my children."

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  19. I don't know how anyone with small children manages to stay on top of household chores at ALL. Don't feel bad.

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  20. Ahh, my house is almost the same way - except we had a party here Saturday so the floors were mopped LOL!
    Yesterday my dh sort of mentioned that we needed some clean laundry and I blew it off. But later my 4 year old told me the same thing as she was complaining of not having pajamas to wear. Oops! Guess I know what I will be doing today ;-)

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  21. That schedule sounds a LOT like my own with one additon:

    Parents/Inlaws coming over for the weekend: run around like chicken with head cut off and make it look like we live in organized cleanliness all the time.

    ;)

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  22. Tammy and ParkerAugust 27, 2007 8:39 AM

    Since Parker's trach has been placed I have been spending all of my day watching him like a hawk lest he pulls that sucker out.

    Doesn't leave much time for house cleaning. If you get your groove back, do me a favor and jump start mine, okay/

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  23. Well, if clutter stimulates the mind, then I should be BRILLIANT! LOL! I know it's bad when hubby confesses to me that he had to go "commando" because his underwear drawer was empty! I try - and I have good days/weeks, but look out the rest of the time! Last week you couldn't walk into our bedroom. Now it's safe, but you can't walk into our daughter's room. Guess I need to tackle it sometime today!
    Relax - I think we can all relate on some level!!! You are not alone!

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  24. This is certainly a refreshing thing for me to read. Ahhh...

    I didn't do any chores on my bday, saturday, but that is okay, it all waited for me to do yesterday. Good times.

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  25. I can relate. Although I usually try to keep up on things it can get out of hand and then it's just so overwhelming I don't even know where to begin! lol

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  26. Yeah my house gets crazy sometimes. I hate putting clothes away, so while we often have clean clothes they are kept in many many piles, rather than say a closet or a dresser. Also, I like to keep the rooms people can see cleanish, but I'm terrified when anyone sees our bedroom. It's... not cleanish at all. It's horrid. After all, I have to put the piles of laundry somewhere.

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  27. I don't have any kids and I can't keep up with just working full time! I do have a large boyfriend though, who eats cereal out of my mixing bowls and leaves the mess! :) My worst confession is that I sometimes wait to clean the bathroom until I would not consider taking a bath in the tub! Gross! I feel like I'm in a frat house at that point and grab the cleaner! I think this post actually motivated me to clean tonight! Thanks! (well I have company coming tomorrow so it had to be done anyway)

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  28. You are just normal to have laundry to do and dishes to be done! Don't sweat the small stuff ---- at least the ducky towel was clean for your hubby. Could've been worse!

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  29. Love your post!!!! So I shouln't be worried about teh mess around my hous because it will stimulate her imagination.
    I think my daughter will have an overload of stimulation because here it's a MESS!!! lol
    Renee

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  30. I'm with Pink & Blues... unless we're having company over, my house is nowhere near clean. Picked up, maybe, but not clean. Let's not even talk about the toilets!

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  31. oh honey...i am SO there. hahaha!
    and i thought I was the only one!

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  32. good heavens no.. we dont want to stand in the way of stimulating their minds now do we? you are tagged.

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  33. LOL i am right there with ya. my house hasn't had a good deep cleaning in uh, i'm afraid to admit how long. i think all of the dirt/germs are helping build up the kids' immune systems! that's my story! :)

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  34. Homeschooling has forced me (literally) to be way more organized about everything than I ever was naturally. I finally decided that my whole house will not be regularly ALL clean ALL at once. So, I came up with a system to do one main chore every morning. For example, Monday a.m.'s I grocery shop. Tuesday a.m.'s I do 3 loads of laundry. Wednesday a.m.'s I clean the bathrooms., Thursday a.m.'s I vacume, etc., etc. I like to do it first thing and then get into my day with schooling and such. Now mind you, that doesn't include the every day picking up, cooking, and dishes that are done - that's another story!! I am also a huge proponent of teaching and training kids to help from a VERY young age. The time investment at first is soooooo worth it and has saved me lots of mommy bitterness from the I Do Everythings. Just my 2 cents :-)

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  35. Beds are supposed to be made? Hmmm have not done that since my mom made me.

    Steph...I'm with you. I love that now that we have the basement done the clutter is down there and the 1st floor is clean.

    And... I have started showering upstairs and the 1st floor bath is being kept clean too! YEAH!

    I have started taking first thing mornings while I am also getting Little Pickel ready for school to clean the kitchen/dining, front room. It really helps. When I go downstairs for work I put laundry in. It seems to work during the school year.

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  36. totally relating here...it doesn't even dawn on me to mop until its totally gross. i imagine there are people out there who notice right away that they haven't mopped in a while. and laundry? please. i need a couple weeks to get that caught up, just so i can be behind again.

    let me know when you get that list caught up and we can celebrate! :)

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  37. I can totally relate. I had to do laundry the other day because my daughter informed me that she has no panties left in her drawer. I don't know if I'll ever get back to my BC organization skills....I do however have a dream of getting there some day!

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  38. This is fun!!! It is the way it is because we have a life, and children and stuff and we put things in perspective and sometime we just enjoy. Don't worry, there isn't any cleaning fairy, it will wait!

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  39. Haha! My goal this week was to not let the clean laundry stay in the basket for five days before being folded. But I failed in order to sweep, mop, vacuum and change the bedsheets....

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  40. I caught my Wog eating something from under the sofa Sunday morning. To this day, I have no clue if it was animal, vegetable, or mineral. Disgusting, but true. :-)

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  41. Don't worry, you are not alone! I actually did a confessions blog a couple of days ago and I CANNOT go into my kitchen without shoes on, yuck! I hate mopping...

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  42. LOL! I think every mom can relate to this post at some time. It'll get better, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.

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  43. I'd be GLAD to come over and mop. It's my new cheap form of therapy. :) Dusting, on the other hand, is something I avoid as along as I possibly can.

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  44. oh yes - I can relate! right now I am on a full house tackle though - i hope to get it all whipped into shape before the babies arrive!

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  46. LOL! What a relief to hear that someone else( many others) have the same issue I do. But I am married to a young man who doesn't always understand. I am just thankful to be able to stay home with my 16 month old and 3 months old boys.
    I find that I feel better when laundry and dishes are done. Who cares if there are toys everywhere and food crumbs on the floor. It is easier to get more done if I get up with my husband and dress first thing. I have to pace myself to keep caught up on the major stuff.

    Monday...catch up on laundry(plus I do at least 1 load every day of the week)( do not put laundry in a basket, fold and put away directly from dryer. It may sit in the dryer for a long time but at least I don't have clothes spilling all over the floor. My 1 yr old loves to scatter and my husband hates to dig)

    Tuesday...clean house(dust, sweep, mop, ect)

    Wednesday...do nothing and focus on getting everything ready for wednesday evening church service.

    Thursday...Dust

    Friday...Catch up on laundry and make sure that everything is done so I we can enjoy the busy weekend.

    I have this on my calendar and sometimes I do laundry on Sunday afternoon and then I feel like I am ahead, instead of behind. Life is much easier around my house and chores are more enjoyable knowing that I am not pressured to get more than one thing done at time.
    I hope this can help someone else. I must admit though that it actually took me several months til I was paced. Don't stress. There are many times that I am thrown off by stuff(visitors, parties, revival, ect.)That is why I try to get my 'daily chore' done early, before my oldest wakes up. I have a lot more patience with him.

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