June 5, 2007

I'm A Super Mom And I Would Be The Mom of 10 Boys- Seriously!

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And I guess I feel like I should explain myself about yesterday's post. If you know me well, you know that I would be happy to have 10 sons. What a blessing that would be. As a mom of 3 boys, I am living the queen's life!

But I also think that it's ok to be honest and say that my hubby would like a daughter, and although the desire isn't as strong in my own heart, I think I would be so blessed to have a daughter some day, too. I find this a sensitive subject among moms of all boys usually- but I wonder if I would have said "I want another boy" if those same moms would be saying that I shouldn't write off a girl.

I want another baby in my belly, another toddler nursing at my chest, a son that will grow up to be a father or a daughter that will grow up to be a mother. I will love my child from the moment I find out I am expecting and have no way of knowing if he's a he or she's a she. I love my child already as I am praying for him or her to be conceived. There is nothing that could change that love- definitely not gender.



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34 comments:

  1. I know where you are coming from. DH has four sons now. His heart yearns everytime he sees a baby girl.

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  2. Your last paragraph is lovely. Makes me think back to those sweet, sweet days. My babies are growing up too fast.
    amanda

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  3. I totally understand yesterday's post. I also would love to have a girl, but seriously- I only want another child because of the awesome experience I've had being Bubbie's mommie. I will take whatever. I want to have another baby to teach, to laugh, to hold... as long as we are heathly and no complications- I am a happy mommie! :) Go for it girl! You seem like a fantastic mommie and I am so impressed with your ability!

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  4. I also understand. And you write so beautifully and honestly.

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  5. Your getting famous! I have two boys and we're not having anymore children it has been made impossible but I still dream up girls names. It is a sensitive for moms of all boys your right. Boys are special though, and I think if I had two girls I would have have tried for a third to have a boy, boys are so sweet and they love their moms.

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  6. Steph, sorry if my comment came off wrong. I totally know that YOU want another CHILD, but I seriously get so sick of women bemoaning the fact that they don't have a certain gender of child. Oh, and I especially hate the whole "you got your girl!" line after Corinne was born. Yes. I got a girl. And my boys are great, too. Thanks for noticing.

    I once had a lady talking in FRONT of her older children about how she had tried and tried to get a boy for her husband, and they FINALLY could stop trying because the baby she had in her arms was a boy. Seriously. In front of her 3 older girls.

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  7. NOBODY took that post wrong. We all know how special your "men" are to you. And there is nothing wrong with wanting a certain gender of child either. When I found out I was pregnant with Carter, I was hoping it was a girl. My boys were SO much older, and Carter was such a surprise, that I really did think a girl would be perfect. But of corse the moment I found out it wasn't a girl there was no disapointment. God gave me what I was meant to raise. And I know you feel the same way. But I'll admit too... Frilly might be nice!!!

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  8. Steph, I'm not a mom yet but I completely understand why you or your husband would want to try for a little girl. There is something magical about each gender and someone who is such an active parent would naturally enjoy both sides. It is also apparent from your writings that if you did have a 4th boy, that he would join the ranks of boys that you love so dearly already and would never be a disappointment. It's only in that situation (where the child is negativly affected) that I think it would be wrong to wish for a certain gender

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  9. When I was pregnant with #3 everyone said "trying for the boy eh?" and it made me angry. Now that we do indeed have a son, for the first time i truely feel an urge for the next one. I would love him to have a brother. However, i too would be thrilled with a girl. Healthy is all i really hope hard for

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  10. What a lovely mom you are!

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  11. I hope you didn't take my comment the wrong way. My question, "If you were guaranteed to have another boy, would you still try anyway?" was more of a "food for thought" comment and a rhetorical question. Just something to think on, you know? It would be sad for anyone to go into a conception really only wanting one gender and then be disappointed if they didn't get what they wanted.

    I am sensitive about the discussion, though, being the mom of 3 boys. Honestly, I'd love to have a house full of dirty, smelly, rowdy little boys and some days the idea of a girl scares the bejeezus out of me. But other days, I think how nice it would to give my boys a sister and how wonderful it would be for our little girl to have 3 older brothers. But, then I'd want to give her a sister, too....then my hubby's eyes would bug out of his head. LOL! If you give a mouse a cookie...

    Your heart is obviously in the right place.

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  12. You know I always wanted two children. Whether they were two girls, two boys or two of each, it didn't matter. Whatever God designed for me to have was fine.

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  13. Oh hun, you're so not alone! Every girlfriend of mine that has all boys says the exact as you. I look as mama's of boys & applaud because I don't know if I could handle boys. The mud? Absolutely. Its their fearlessness that I fear. Bravo to you, hun.

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  14. And duh me... Congrats on SuperMom of the month!! YEAH you are!!

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  15. Any boy or girl would be lucky to hae you as a mommy!

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  16. Hugs for you from me. :)

    I'm due with #4 this August, and don't know the sex yet (all of ours have been mysteries until birth). My hubby says we're done, but I'm not so sure. We've always said "4," but we've never gone to the Lord about it together to find out.

    My youngest just took her first steps today, and I found myself so grateful that I have another baby coming. The thought actually crossed my mind that I wanted to just always have a baby in my arms...

    All I know is that I'm completely ok with letting God make the decision, but in the meantime, I am going to let hubby have his way until the Lord changes his heart or mine.

    Thank you for being so open - it's refreshing.

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  17. You sound like your such a great mom (since I don't know you personally;-D). You never know 4 boys could be the best experience of your life!

    Girls are very sweet (even thru the whiny stage they ALL go thru) but MAN THEY ARE SO MUCH MORE EXPENSIVE than LITTLE boys!!! LOL!!

    you can find better deals...but thats the problem . . .you find SOOO many good deals and us moms can NEVER walk away from a good deal!!!

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  18. Congrats, SuperMom!

    And you ARE just that - a SUPER Mom - to your three boys, and to however many more boys and girls you have!!

    Jane, Pinks & Blues Girls

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  19. p.s. I love that Jeff wants a baby girl. Monte wanted boys. ALL BOYS!!! (but I think a girl would have him wrapped around her finger) Two other bosses at his work both have 3 girls and wanted a boys. Now that we have 3 boys they think Monte is "the man". Whatever!! :)

    Love Ya!
    Robin

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  20. Well, you go! Can't wait till you see two lines!!

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  21. Well, I understand... I think it's normal to dream of having one gender or the other- and as long as you aren't bemoaning the gender of the children you've been blessed with, I don't see a thing wrong with it!

    When dh and I married I just assumed we'd have all or almost all boys because boys outnumber girls in his family 5:1. Go figure, our first and third were both girls. :p There's been times were it's hard to wrap my mind around the fact that I have two daughters!

    I hope things go well for you, if you're ttc now. :)

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  22. Look at you, Mrs. Super Mom! How awesome to be recognized, and I loved your words of wisdom! :o)

    And anyone who knows you knows that you would love your future son or daughter no matter what... at least I know that. I mean, you are a super mom!!!! :o)

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  23. I think we all knew that you'd love whoever God gave you! But, I'm sure that people who only have children of one sex are curious of what it would be like to parent the a child of the opposite sex. I'm lucky that I got both, b/c the "not knowing" would kill me. LOL! But, look who's talking I can't decide if I wnat more or not. I don't know if I'll ever look at a newborn and not want one of my own again.

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  24. I agree it's good to be honest - children, fill your heart with more love than you could even imagine, if you have not had a baby in your life yourself. A mother's (and father's) love for there children goes beyond reason - or it should!

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  25. So very sweet! Son or daughter, it's obvious you're a great mother and that baby would be blessed to have you. :)
    Good luck on this journey!

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  26. Congratulations on being a SuperMom! Just checked the profile they did on you and it's marvelous!

    And ditto on the "we know what you meant" re: the baby's gender. I think once you're over two kids, it's perfectly reasonable to dream for a particularly gender! :)

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  27. After our first 2 boys I really wanted another boy. DH wanted a girl and of course we got 2 of them at once. But I'd love to have more boys. Boys treat their mamas so well! :)

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  28. Five years ago, your last paragraph could have been me. I wanted so badly to conceive another child, and I did...after many months of trying (that little blessing just turned 3!). Now I can echo almost all of it...I don't think my body can handle another pregnancy, but if I could do the rest, I'd be so happy! Being a mother is the best thing EVER! I always loved my babies, even when they were just hopes and prayers.
    May God give you the desire of your heart!
    Blessings-
    Andie

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  29. I think that being a mom in general is the greatest blessing regardles of the gender of your children.

    It is hard, as there is a small percentage of parents out there that gender is a serious issue for. But I think that for the greater majority out there, despite hoping for a boy or a girl, in the big picture it doesn't really matter. That baby will be loved unconditionally no matter what.

    So, go on and dream with your hubby in wondering what it would be like to have a girl. If you are blessed to have another child, you know deep down in your heart that the gender won't matter as that baby will be loved from the moment of conception.

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  30. Wow, you *are* a super mom! Congrats!

    When I read your blog and other moms' blogs, sometimes it make me want another baby too.....

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  31. that is so beautiful. i'm sure that you'll get exactly what you need then! having both a boy and 2 girls i love having each for completely different reasons. it's so amazing to see that you have such a perfect view of your little person. kudos.

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  32. Well said. Funny I can see how boys mamas would be more sensitive to that, I don't know why. I personally would only want boys and I don't really have a reason for that. Even though I look at my friends' daughters and think how awesome they are.

    Now if I found out I was having a girl I don't think I'd be the slightest bit disappointed. I actually had a friend who was very disappointed when she found out her first was a girl. I always say they both have their pros and cons! But I can see after having 3 boys, you would like to know what it's like raising the other side. And honestly if we had a girl first, I am pretty sure my husband would want to try for his boy but now there is no need since we already have him.

    I had several strangers say "awww" and look at me with pity when I said I was having a boy. A couple actually said "I bet you were hoping for a girl." No but I was hoping for a stranger who wasn't so ignorant and would mind their own business.

    O Mama Mia - yeah I couldn't handle the fearless boy thing either. Unfortunately I have no choice! You kind of get used to the heart attacks.

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  33. I'll be honest. I did want a girl first. (I just got one!) But now I don't care if I have 10 more girls or 10 more boys or some of each. I just want lots and lots of kids :)

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