So, I caught Oprah the other day about the battle between working moms and stay at home moms...
First of all, why does it have to be us against them? Ah, can't all moms just band together?
If you are a stay at home mom, did you always plan to? Do you enjoy it? Do you plan to go back to work someday? If you are a working outside of the home mom, did you always plan to do so? Do you enjoy it?
I have never worked full-time outside the home while being a mother, so I have no idea what it would be like. We always planned that when we had babies I would stay at home with them- both hubby and I desired that.
I personally love staying at home and get shaky and light headed if I think about if I ever had to go back to work and not be with my kids... but that's just me! I know some moms are pulling their hair and practically clawing their eyes out by the time hubby gets home somedays. Don't think I don't have those days either...
I have a friend that tried the staying at home thing and it did not work for her. She just wasn't "cut out" for it. She's a great working mom and devoted and involved in every area of her kids' lives. She does more with them than I do, I think sometimes! They are really great kids, too.
And another topic of opinion I was thinking about the other day, kinda goes along with Ashlee's recent post about parenting and mothering instincts... I just want to emphasize the importance of sticking with your inner instincts when seeking opinions, whether they are minor or medical or so forth.
Personally I feel like God speaks to me through my mothering instincts. My own examples have proven me right on so far- like last year when Gray was having "chronic sinus infections" or "allergies" according to the doctor, but deep inside I kept thinking it could be something in my diet that he was getting in my breastmilk. I just knew it had to be milk. I don't know why, but I just knew.
The doctor wanted to put him on an allergy medication. I asked if it could be a food allergy and he said I could just give him the medication and see if it cleared up. In my mind I thought it made more sense to get to the root of the problem and eliminate it. So, I left the doctor without the prescription (no thank you!) and made an appointment for allergy testing on my own.
Did you know that it is OK to disagree with your doctor, or NOT fill a prescription, or get a second opinion, or NOT take their advice? Have you ever been afraid of "offending" your doctor? I would much rather risk offending a doctor if it was in the best interest of me or my child... I'm just sayin'...
Back to the allergy test- sure enough- Gray is very allergic to milk, and also eggs and peanuts! I just wish I would have paid attention to my instincts immediately and stopped my intake of milk earlier on!
I have clearly never been to medical school, but in this instance I am SO glad I went with my instincts and not with the professional's opinion. I cringe every time I hear people say "I just trust my doctor!" as if that's the final word. As much as you'd like and hope to believe it, they are not always right and don't always know best. We learned the hard way early on with Noah, too.
It's ok to trust your doctor. That's important to be able to have that trust. But it's also very important to trust your instincts, too. I still seek the opinion of an allopathic pediatrician and also a naturopathic doctor. I usually will talk to both before making a decision regarding the kids' and my health. Ultimately, we bring everything to the Lord in prayer before making any decision! There are several decisions we are currently waiting to make- we haven't gotten our answer yet!
Oh, and another great thing about opinions... I am always changing my mind & opinions about everything. That's one great thing about knowledge and continuing to learn. I really try to not be close-minded and try to see both sides. Walk in the other person's shoes type of thing. So, my opinion is ever changing as I grow.
At the bottom of my birth plan- a long list of wishes and desires for my labor & birth of Gray- I had highlighted: I also reserve the right to change my mind about any of these things if needed!